How do I stop hurting?

Question

I am a gay 16 year old who has just had his heart broken very badly. I met this guy who was just perfect for me. Today he told me that we could not go out because we are too similar. This broke my heart so bad it hurts to breath. I do not know what to do right now. I just wanna kill myself to make the pain go away. I need some good advise to help me get through this.

P.S. If you do not agree with my life, please keep your comments to yourself right now. I dont think that I could handle them at the moment. Have a heart and help me out please! I would do the same thing for you...

Answer 1

Awww honey, first let me say I am so sorry that you are hurting. I know the pain of a broken heart. I wish I had the words to say to make it all better, or better yet - I wish I could make it all go away for you. Unfortunately, that's impossible. All I CAN say is that with time, it WILL get better. I know that's not what you want to hear, believe me - I got SO SICK of hearing it I wanted to spit on the next person who told me that.

I'm sure it's twice as hard for you, being that you are gay. I cannot imagine that's an easy life to live. People are shallow & they judge you simply by that, when we ALL have the right to be happy.

Reach out and find someone that you trust to talk to. Try writing in a journal, some place to put your pain. For me, keeping a journal worked. I could put down all my feelings without having to speak them to anyone.

As far as killing yourself, think of all the people you would hurt. Think how THEY would suffer if YOU were gone, how they would blame themselves. My nephew committed suicide a few years ago and I to this day still hurt over it. It's a WASTE, you have MUCH to offer the world, please don't think like that. If you find that it's more than a passing thought, please get help. Talk to your family and/or friends. Let someone be there for you.

Gentle hugs to you, Marilyn

Answer 2

Welcome to the world of dating. Unfortunately, you will have your heart broken many, many times before you find a relationship that works. The first time it happens, you feel like you want to rip your heart out. The next time, it hurts pretty darned bad again. It never really gets to the point where a relationship ends and you go "oh well", but it does get easier.

I am 41, and although I've been married twice and had a couple of significant relationships, it still hurts when one ends, even if you look at the relationship objectively and say "well, that relationship wasn't healthy for me anyway". Your brain and your heart usually don't do much communicating during a relationship.

I'm sure you will get some grief from people who don't agree with your lifestyle, but that is because they don't understand it. Your heart is as real as that of a heterosexual, and your pain and your feelings are all just as raw. Maybe moreso because it is harder to share your situation with people close to you when your situation is not "mainstream".

I am sorry you are going through this, but the best way to get through it is to busy yourself with other things. Keep your mind occupied. Go out with your friends and do the things you did before you met this person.

Good luck. Hang in there.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Well first of all to say that you want to kill your self, meaning it or not, isn't good. This is part of love gay or straight, there's ups and downs. You just have to remember that there are alot of guys out there that would be more perfect for you than this guy was, and you don't want to kill your self before you find that one true love. The pain will eventually fade as time goes on, but give it time. Hang in there you'll be fine. Hope this helps and good luck, take care of your self

Answer 5

ok doll do not kill yourself! and dont say you want to either because i used to be way suicidal and i tried to kill myself almost every night becuz i just couldnt take getting hurt all the time just like you. even tho i dont know you, i do not want to hear you say you want to kill yourself becuz it juts hurts me to hear that.
I am very, vrey sorry about your heart getting broken mainly becaus i have been there like a million times, not just with bf/gf but with my family and friends as well. It hurts so bad and it takes what seems like forever to get over it but eventually you will realize that there is someone out there for you that is a million times better than all those people that broke your heart. Anyone that breaks your heart just isn't worth your time, in my opinion. This guy could just obviously not see how great you are(even tho i dont know you, im just going to assume you're a great guy becuz you seem like you are). Just stick with your friends, try to always smile and see how much your friends and family love you, and remember that they all would miss you so very much if you did kill yourself.
Keep your eyes open for Mr.Right but dont look too hard. Enjoy your life and to anyone that says anything bad to you, just say **** em. They aren't worth your time. One day you'll find the person that is worth your time. You're still young(same age as me!! yay!!) so you still have alot of time to find your perfact guy!!
Keep smiling, doll!! :)

Answer 6

Trust me, I really do know what I am talking about. Yes, it hurts, but tomorrow it will hurt less. The guy was trying to be nice to you, he just wasn't as interested in you as you were in him...and it will happen to you in reverse...there will be those who enter your life, who will be wild about you, but you will not feel the same, and you will hurt them...accidentally, not your fault, not anyone's fault. It is just how it is. Now, what works for me...just get over yourself and go on....it works every time. There is great wisdom in the very old saying, Tomorrow is another day! You will survive (listen to the old Gloria Gaynor song, "I will survive" it will do you a great amount of good.! Cheer up

Answer 7

DON'T KILL YOURSELF! because there is always going to be a tomorrow and you never know what that is going to bring. it hurts now, but in time you will heal. just get your mind off. ride your bike, take a walk, hang out with your friends, blast music and dance around your room singing in a hair brush, get a pint of ice cream and it eat. but you can't heal over night. it's like getting cut. it's going to hurt really bad for the first few days. but over time, the cut heals. day by day the cut gets better. and day by day you'll heal to the day you forget about getting your heart broken. at 16 you have your whole life ahead of you.

Answer 8

Can you guys still be friends? I had a guy say that to me once and it broke my heart too, but then after time passed, I realized that we were not meant to be together. I know that's easy to say now, but you will find the right person when you aren't expecting it, and he will make you ten times happier than this guy does because he won't break your heart!

Answer 9

the pain doesn't go completely away ,but it does make you a better partner for someone who deserves you, chalk it up to life lesson and learn what not to do,you'll meet your Mr. Right, in time .
p.s. don't hurt yourself because of a guy, your life is worth so much more then you know. Doodles,,, just wipe your tears and think of it This way he was just one stepping stone on your quest for true love . p.p.s.s SMILE no I mean really SMILE hey damn it Smile,,,,,,,,,, o.k thats better and it does wonders for your face! go young sky walker be your future ,lol

Answer 10

I know you are going through a very hard time and hurt very much. Give it time and it will grow less and less. You may still remember him, but as the previous person said...get on with your life and try to meet others.