2006-06-06 08:25:44 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My sister in law ignores my 3 yr old daughter and is so bad tempered i just want to smack her one!!
2006-06-06 08:40:39 · update #1
U NEED TO LET HER KNOW!!!!
2006-06-06 10:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Falon J 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Rudeness is hard to deal with no matter whether it is your husband's sister or your brother's wife. Be grateful you don't have to live with her. Just don't sink to her level, always be the better person, your husband will see the wonderful woman he married and your brother may think twice about the choice he made. Most of all, pray for her, ask God to remove the saddness that makes her rude. I say this because if she were truly happy, she would not want to make you miserable (remember misery loves company). If things become really bad for you remove yourself from her presence, and take a breather. Hope things work out for you.
2006-06-06 08:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by blackbird62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think your relationship is worth salvaging, talk to her. Tell her in a heartfelt manner that you don't appreciate the way she treats you and your daughter. It's not fair to her if you don't let her know there is a problem. Otherwise, if you already know that she will blow you off, you may be better off by writing her out of your life a little at a time. Oh, and there is no rule that says that the two of you must like each other. Good luck. I'm dealing with one of my own.
2006-06-10 14:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by cafephillips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there.
I had the same problem you have a very rude sister in law.
My ex husband was 20 years older than me and, up until that time the only female on that side of the family. Boy did she make my life ****!!!!
Nothing i did was right for her brother i was a complete waste of space.
I put it down to jealously on her part!! i had a good life, good job, happiness and a family who cared. She had nothing!!
I put up with it for 10 years until i divorced her brother!! I used to smile and just ignore her - smiling used to wind her up. I would not let her get the better of me.
Then i found out her husband left her and had a sex change, is now a woman. I laughed till i could laugh no more. All the years of taking **** off her and this happens to her.
My motto is wait your time. They say god moves in mysterious ways, it may have taken 11 years but boy hearing that made up for the years of ****!!!!!!
Hope she gets her comupance!!!
Keep yer chin up and dont let her get you down!!!
2006-06-06 08:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by hoggyslapper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't say if she has kids herself. She may be a little jealous and as this is an irrational emotion she will struggle to hide or control it. Try writing a letter to her telling her that you feel she doesn't really like you which is fine as you are both adults and can understand and handle that but that your little girl is only a child and really wants to know her aunty and feels hurt when she's ignored. If that doesn't melt her heart then you'll have to keep your distance until she feels ok. she won't be like that forever as everyone changes with age but try to ignore her rudeness and don't give her your buttons to press.
2006-06-06 10:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So I am not the only person on this planet with a b***h sister-in-law? What a relief. Sorry, you can't make a miserable excuse for a person change. I do however like to piss her off when no one is looking and then watch the fireworks.
2006-06-06 08:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by staple remover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as sweet as possible to her at all times. Never say mean things in her presence. Kill her with kindness. When she asks rude questions smile sweetly and say "Why do you want to know?" . It may take a while but she'll eventually get the hint.
2006-06-06 08:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey!!! I know exactally where you are coming from. The best thing to do is just keep your distance from her. When you are around her don't let her walk all over you, and when she is rude tell her that you don't appreciate her behavior and you will not tolerate it! You have to let her know right from the start that you are not going to put up with her crap.
2006-06-06 08:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by AMY P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance yourself from her as much as you can. Be polite to her when you're around her, especially when your brother's around. You can ask her why she's rude to you. Although you might get a rude answer. My brother's wife (she no longer deserves the sister-in-law title, looong story lol) is rude & obnoxious, plus a compulsive liar. I've distanced myself from her as much as possible, being polite to her only when I have to at family gatherings.
2006-06-06 08:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Belle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a rude sister in law and you just have to kind of grin and bare it, but when she asks you to do something just tell her your busy, your have to be polite when your with the family though, doit for your spouse, it is their sibling. As hard as it is, killing them with kindess will pay off for you.
2006-06-06 08:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by lissa7903 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awesome question, do what I do. I tell her that her behavior is unacceptable and that what she is asking/or stating isn't cool.
If that doesn't work you can just come right out and say "How Rude Are You?"
I hope that helps.
2006-06-06 08:28:50 · answer #11 · answered by lovethebeanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋