How do you know when you're ready to date again after a divorce (following many years of marriage)? How can you tell if it's too soon?
2006-06-06 08:22:49 · 14 answers · asked by Lotte T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think there's really a specific or set rule on the amount of time you wait to reenter the dating world. It's different for each person with respect to their personal wants, needs and relationship history. My personal opinion is that there should be time allowed for separating yourself from the emotional ties to the failed relationship prior to dating again simply to ensure that you've reorganized your emotions, come to grips with them and thereby allowing you to move into the dating scene with as little emotional baggage as possible.
2006-06-06 08:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on who you ask, I have heard answers up to two years. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. Take some time for yourself to heal. When you feel ready to go out, start with a night out with friends.
If you were married a long time, see if there are some social groups you can join. This is an easy way to meet new people with similar interests and members of the opposite sex.
Good Luck!
2006-06-06 08:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by mama_wizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your asking this question you already know the answer. There is no specific time limit it all depends on you and the things you experinced in the marriage. You may have been legally married but the really question is when did your emotional marriage end? You may just be getting divorced but your marriage could have been over long ago. Try dating and if you find yourself feeling uneasy than wait awhile.
2006-06-06 08:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been divorced twice and the length of time after a divorce vary with the pain. First one took me two years, second on I was dating the week I moved out. You never know. It's how you feel.
2006-06-06 08:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To listen to your heart is the best way, but at times you are on an emotional roller coaster ride so it isn't all that easy to determine.
Ask yourself, what do you seek in dating another guy for? Is it because you want a way out of your current problems, out of loneliness, monetary gains or so? If so then you should take things slowly.
Just remember, you don't date to solve your problems, you date only because you and the person are willing to share your lives together.
2006-06-06 08:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your still crying over the divorce, its not time. Otherwise start dating but dont get too involved for a while. Take it slow.
2006-06-06 08:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one but you can really answer that question. You'll just know in your heart and in your head that you're ready to move on and dive into the world of dating again.
2006-06-06 08:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by bluesie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just gotta get that first one out of the way. maybe after that, you realize you're not ready, so you take a little more time... or, maybe you really enjoy it and think "wow, i've been missing out!" point is, put yourself out there and give it a try... there are some wonderful guys out there waiting to meet you!
2006-06-06 08:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by smartguytrustme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 mins after divorce, should be long enough to wait. No more, sitting at home waiting, go out and live life, God said so!
Not me.
2006-06-06 08:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an attractive and educated woman with a lifetime expirience, unlike these little girls on this yahoo site. perhaps you can try to attract men similar to your expiriences in order to relate and talk about your ups and downs, that one way to break the ice, as we say here in U.S. It might be a bumpy start, but keep at it they're are men out there that can relate to you, as to how attracted you what em', it's your call!
2006-06-06 08:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋