i don't know what to think?

Question

my boyfriend isn't a virgin and i just found that out yesterday but i am a virgin and i plan on staying a virgin until i'm married...it's sort of bothering me that he's not a virgin and now that i know he's so much more experienced than i am i'm afraid to get intimate with him...is this stupid or should i just not let it bother me? please no rude or mean answers...i could really use your help!?!?! (if you wanted to know i'm 15 and he's 17)

i'm also afraid that he's going to start to look somewhere else from what he's not getting from me...so i don't know what to do...also, he doesn't know i know that he's not a virgin...should i tell him that i know or should i keep it to myself?

Answer 1

Regardless of the choices he's made to fore go his virginity before marriage, this should in no way change your self commitment to retain yours until you feel you have found the one you wish to spend your life with. The other thing I think you have to ask yourself is are you going to be able to ultimately give yourself to him assuming you ever married him knowing he gave himself away before you? As for feeling less inclined to be intimate with him know that you know about his virginity, I don't think it's stupid at all to not feel as comfortable with it and I suspect a lot of that has to do with not feeling 'complete' with him because you do know he's given himself already to another woman.

Answer 2

Hello! First you are a very smart girl for wanting to stay a virgin 'till you get married. Don't worry about him being more experienced than you. The only down to him not being a virgin is that he might get desperate and would want to have sex and he'll go out and get it from somewhere else. If he is a nice guy and appreciates a good catch when he sees one then he will be true to you. Just play it by ear and take it one day at a time. Good luck and stick to your believes.

Answer 3

its okay that you don't want to get intimate with him, i totally understand. i think you should wait to find someone else with closer values to yours because if this guy isn't virgin then it is kinda obvious he might want to have it with you. and you should wait for a guy who is waiting until marrige too because then you guys have the same values. the guy you marry waited just for you, which is really cool. so yeah i'd say break up with him.

Answer 4

Baby girl ....your young , i gave myself to a guy at 13 he was 17 and automatically thought i was in love ,misguided and extremely immature I spent to much loss time believing his promises.
my mom found out and moved me across country!
oh man, don't ! and if he's pressuring you , don't,,,,!!!! your worth much more then what he's prepared to give you right now,
if hes willing and committed to being with you for life please continue to wait, but time will give you your answer,
and as far as you feeling awkward about the present situation maybe God is trying to tell you something,,,,, Listen.

Answer 5

since it will be several years before you marry, keep to your plan to remain a virgin, and see what happens. If he starts pressuring you for sex, let him go. If he's willing to mend his ways, and wait for you, keep him around.

Answer 6

It's all up to you. Whether or not you'd want to be with someone with experience or be both's firsts, it's all totally up to you.

Give it time. You're still young. See if you can see yourself with him... and if you can, you can look over certain things... and he can respect your wishes to remain a virgin until you're married.

Answer 7

Hes 17 and already had sex Dang!!!!!! No but I would be a little weird feeling to its not stupid