ok i broke up with this guy a while ago and he still says stuff about us getting back together. its getting pretty annoying and i dont know what to do about it...i need help!!!
2006-06-06 07:53:33 · 19 answers · asked by VolleyballChic4eva*** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Want me to handle that situation for you,I'll put your ex-boyfriend in check
2006-06-06 07:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
This same thing happened to me and finally I just had to sit him down and tell him "look, we broke up for a reason, a very good reason, and I have no desire for us to get back togther. I have been trying to be your friend but if that's not going to be possible - to be JUST friends - then perhaps it's best if we didn't see or talk to each other anymore at all". He got the point. He tried to be just my friend but it didn't work, and when he saw I was serious about not getting back together he eventually just went away. The main thing to do is NOT send mixed messages. Don't lead him on or let him think there is even the slightest chance of a relationship.
2006-06-06 08:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you have to NOT be nice to get your point across. there are some people that don't take hints easily and its sad but the only thing they understand is blunt back off and leave me alone language. cut off contact with him as much as you can but don't be afraid to tell him the hard truth if thats what is comes to, its nice that you don't want to hurt his feelings but often times guys like this will take your being nice as a sign that there is hope for the relationship, some guys you just can't be nice to! its not your fault so don't feel bad about it, i mean you broke up with the guy, what bigger clue does he need? think of it this way, letting him know there is no chance might give him the kick in the pants he needs to move on and find someone who wants to be with him, so in the end you are helping him! plus maybe next time a girl breaks up with him he won't make such an idiot of himself.
2006-06-06 07:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How previous are you adult adult males? i will't think of a socially mature individual seeing this as something yet a mistake of nature. those t hings take place, granted all of us desire they'd not yet, they do. Your boyfriend is a jerk for listening and going at the same time together with his stupid acquaintances. in the event that they afflicted him lots he would desire to have reported nicely Thank the Lord shes no longer pregnant. i do no longer think of his acquaintances could be teasing him they might in all hazard pat him on the back like the jerks they are. If neither of you may manage a actuality of existence then perchance you're no longer waiting for a dating.
2016-10-30 07:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're gonna have to tell him that in a public area. That way, if he were to get some sort of crazy ideas, you'd have witnesses.
Sadly enough, some guys don't get the hint (No offense, good guys!!!) and you have to be mean and just ignore them. The silent treatment usually comes across as being bitchy, but sometimes it's the only way to get them to understand.
Good Luck!
2006-06-06 07:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Rock Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through this too. he was writing me letters and poems and calling me like 4 or 5 times a day. strange thing is that we have been broken up like 5 years.
i never gave him any idea that we could start again so i don't know what was going through his mind.
anyhoo, i tried being nice, i tried being firm but i eventually had to get nasty!
sometimes you have to be mean if it's the only way to get them off your back and get the message!
2006-06-06 07:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes, as much as you don't want to, you have to be straight forward. dont' think of it as being mean... just think of it as doing him a favor by making it very clear where you stand on the issue. Tell him you don't want him to look back and be mad that he wasted his time with you when he could have been moving on with his life.. I had the exact situation happen to me.. and i finally had to be rude as harsh as it sounds,, some guys really just don't get it.
2006-06-06 07:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by itsjustme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to be mean to ask him to back off some just tell him you need some space right now and you need to be alone so you can have time to think about things and you would appreciate it if he would just back off and give you that time
2006-06-06 07:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by sclady62001p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you just want to be friends. Most guys know this as a universal kiss off.
2006-06-06 07:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him u got another man,child!!!! i'm 15 yrs old and i had the same problem...my ex- didn't care so i just asked him to be friends eventually he got another girl and i ended up seeing that i still had feelings for him.so if u think its worth hanging on to...u better sit back and enjoy the ride (u never miss sumthing until its gone!)!!!!!
2006-06-06 07:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking about a guy, even if you have to make it up. every time he talks to you just start talking about this other guy and how great he is and they you're looking forward to seeing him...if he doesn't back off then I'd get a restraining order!
2006-06-06 07:58:20 · answer #11 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋