He says he still loves me and misses me but feels he should be alone..I'm just wondering if anyone else thinks he could be seeing someone else and just not wanting to tell me the truth.
2006-06-06 07:18:58 · 15 answers · asked by lulusc87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's breaking up with you as mildly as he can.
He probably sees other opportunties so he is weighing is options.
He is holding on to you just in case he goes out and doesnt find what he's looking for THEN he knows he has YOU, to come back to.
DON'T let him have his way with you, SOOTHING you with words like 'i still love you' 'i miss you'.
If you try to hold on to him, in his mind he'll think you're a DESPERATE girl. It may be hard for you, but you need to show him (act indifferent without strong emotion but still friendly) that you are not desperate for him. Good luck!
2006-06-06 07:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but it's been eleven going on twelve years and still not married yet?...There has been other probably for sometime now, I think you need to not let yourself be or stay in denial any longer..It's not going to be easy for you to just simply call things off because there are several soul ties between the two of you...Even when you guys talk about the issue and decide to part ways feelings will resurfacing from his end as well as yours...So i recommend that you seek someone that could help as far as advise and council because from experience this will take some time to heal yourself from those souls ties...All in all if he didn't feel any different after the first years towards you, then he never will!....Ends things!!!1
2006-06-06 07:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by marinchrist1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a good sign. He probably wants to see what else is out there and keep you on the side until he does. If his feelings have not progressed in 1 1/2 yrs that is not a good sign either. I would leave him alone forever.
2006-06-06 07:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so. i was in a similar situation about 5 months ago. there was no one else, he just needed some time to fully realize how important out relationship is for both of us. mybe it's something like that in ur situation. he probably sees his friends having fun with different girls and stuff, so he feels like he is missiong on something.
tell him how u feel about this. sit down and decide what both of u would feel comfortable with. u'll probably have to reach a decision somewhere in the middle of what each one of u want. tel him that if u decide to separate for a while, u'll have the same kinds of freedom the he'll have (hook up with other guys if u feel like it, for example (this usually makes him realize how silly the whole idea is, guys r very possessive)). in my case, we were back, closer than ever after a week and a hlf and during that time we were still seeing each other every day.
good luck and i hope everything goes well
2006-06-06 07:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by Unicorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes we just need some time for ourself! By asking for some time off may not necessarily be bad..there's a saying' set it free, if it comes back then you are sure it is yours'!Based on personal experience. asking for time may do wonders sometimes ,when you are apart then you will realise how important that person is in your life or it could be like what u say he is seeing someone else and that he doesn't want to hurt you!But i suggest you go ask him and stop all this guessing game as it may caused detriment to your relationship if it is not true!Good luck!
2006-06-06 07:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Shining StaR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't always think the worse. There is the saying that "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Maybe your boyfriend is trying to find himself & it could be that having the opportunity to miss you could be proof for him that he can't live without you. Don't assume you know, do your best to talk to him. Even though the truth may hurt you, tell him that out of respect for you to be honest no matter what it is. Make sure you tell him that out of respect for him you will do your best to understand. After all, what kind of relationship could you have if honesty & communication does not exist.
2006-06-06 07:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be he is afraid of commitment.Or he may have feelings for you but not enough to go to the next level and if it isn't there now it won't be no matter how much more time you give him.
2006-06-06 07:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by mary h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. Time to consider him as part of your past and move on with your life. If he cannot proceed in this relationship, then start trying to forget about him and find someone who is interested in a relationship, instead of just games.
2006-06-06 07:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even after one and a half years he doesn't know whether he loves u or not.; why r u wasting your time & youth?u have wasted enough for this guy. leave him & find somebody who has proper sense & knows the meaning of real love.
2006-06-06 07:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe maybe not.
maybe its not that there is someone else, maybe he just realized that you're not the one for him. if i were u i'd respect that. even if there is someone else at least he is telling u how he feels and isn't cheating behind ur back.
hook me up with his number, he seems great!
2006-06-06 07:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by dvlndskyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋