i am depressed.why dont my inlaws respect my feelings?

Answer 1

Sometimes people have problems with accepting new people in and accepting new people with different personalities. Have you tried spending more time with them and allowing them to get to know you? If all else fails talk to them about how you're feeling. They might be oblivious.

Answer 2

If you look at the situation from your inlaws' point of view you are most probably regarded as someone who has succeeded in parting them with their beloved child (your partner). What you need to do is develop a closer relationship with your inlaws. Try to build on things you already have in common and perhaps turn to them in times of need. Ultimately your inlaws may also begin to regard you as their own child.

Answer 3

First, are you depressed because they don't respect your feelings, or are you depressed and they don't understand your feelings of depression.

If it's the latter, it is very common for people to not understand depression. I myself am very depressive most of the time. Often times the depression is unfounded to the casual outside observer. For instance, anyone would understand depression after the death of a child, however, most people do not understand the intricacies of how daily life can influence the perceptions of a depressive personality.

That being said, don't let their lack of sympathy increase your depression. If it is very important that they understand, you have no choice but to have a soul bearing discussion about your feelings and why they are happening. I prefer just not to bother other people and look for distractions that relieve the depression. For me, video games serves the purpose well.

Answer 4

Depends on the situation i guess.
Ive been married 9 years, and this year was the year they accepted me as thier son-in-law in a good way......and i work 60+ hours a week, im not sitting around doing nothing.
They've been great over the years but it takes time to get respect. You have to earn it.

Hope you have a better day tomorrow.
Dont worry, they will come round.

Answer 5

Search yourself thoroughly. Are you a likeable person. Do you have marital problems of which they are aware? Parents are overprotective generally of their children and view their spouses most times as not being good enough. If they think you are not good enough you will never be accepted and you will have to live with it.

Get to a place where you can function without their blessing. Your spouse chose you, make him/her proud of your love and proud to love you. Once your relationship is solid you will be able to face any adversity together including the in-laws.

Answer 6

Join the club, wake up to real life , don't for even one minute suppose you are on your own! This situation has been ongoing almost since the start of time!
Get over it as long as you and your partner respect and love each other, bollo*** to the rest of the world!!

Answer 7

First,continue to be yourself and respect them;
Second,try to talk frankly to them and your hubby or wife about your feelings about this,and find the cause;
Last but not least,stay far away from them and laugh happily.

Cheer up!

Answer 8

probably because they don't want to. In laws (in most cases) cant empathise because there are no true feelings. My only advice is for you to seek professional help, and when you have come through this you'll have no-one to thank but yourself.

Answer 9

unless u have suffered with depression, u have no idea wot it is like. people think u can just pull yourself together and get over it. they have no idea how it is. they just dont understand. they cant respect your feelings if they cannot understand them.
only people who have and are suffering with this awful illness will understand, like me.

Answer 10

Move to another city.