Im going to be 21 and I dont know anyone here. I also have a 1 in a half year old and a 7wk old. But last time I moved back home it cost sooo much money!
2006-06-06 07:09:14 · 5 answers · asked by Proud Army Wife 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
when you got married, your family became your spouse and any subsequent children. Time to grow up and prove to yourself and everyone else that you are mature enough to go it alone.
since, like you mentioned, the entire cost is going to be out of pocket, is it REALLY worth it? let the grandparents come to you if they want to see thei rgrandkids so badly.
2006-06-06 08:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to be away from your family when your husband is away, but think of this. Besides the money factor, which is out of pocket, if you stay there you have better and faster access to any information about your husband or his unit through your Rear D and FRG. You will also be surrounded by people who are going through the same thing, so your chances to increase your base of support are higher. You're closer to post and all the 'free' services provided there. And it IS your chance to prove yourself as self-sufficient not only to others but to yourself. There's nothing better than knowing you can handle things on your own and not have to depend on the presence of others. People are free to come visit you, and there's always phones and internet to stay connected. You and your children will also benefit from the stability of staying where you are. It's going to be hard enough, even on the infant, with their father being gone. Why add the stress of moving? I don't know about you, but even when it's paid for, I HATE moving.
The best way to meet people is through your FRG. They're not all best friend potential, and that's okay, but knowing people is half the battle. If you don't know who your FRG leader is, have your husband find out at work. Get involved with groups. Your base should have an ACS or similar office that has info on all the programs and classes offered through that military community. Not only will you meet people and learn stuff that will help you, it'll help keep you occupied. His unit will have information on where to go if you're not sure.
2006-06-07 01:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever my husband goes away I always plan a long visit home right in the middle of his time away. That way I have something to look forward to when he first goes, and when I get back it is halfway over. That way I keep my residence and I get to visit home. The best of both worlds.
Do whatever you need to do. It has nothing to do with growing up, your kids are young, and it is not easy. My kids are 13 mos apart. I went home when my husband was away for the same reasons you have here. Just don't move, 'visit' The baby flies for free still.
good luck, keep your sanity, those babies need you especially the older one, this time he is going to miss daddy.
2006-06-06 13:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is best for you and your kids. If you live on base, join a support group so you won't be isolated. If you need to be close to family, then go home. Do whatever it takes to get you through this difficult time in your life. Your husband needs to know that you & the kids are OK without him, so he can do his job well & come back to you safely. Good luck & GOD bless your family for your sacrifice.
2006-06-06 07:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by awnery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spit the kid out and then give me a call honey
2006-06-06 14:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Best President Ever!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋