My boyfriend told me for weeks that he had a feeling that he was going to do something he would regret...Then a few weeks later he told me that he had slept with another girl on his base. When I asked him if he did it because he didnt love me. He said no. He does love me. H erold me that he didnt think I would understand What should I do? Leave him or try to work it out
2006-06-06 06:45:49 · 25 answers · asked by sckr4luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you have to respect his honesty. Only someone who really does luv u would tell you the truth like that. But at the same time he was telling you weeks ahead of time he might do something and it seems like you walked into that and let that happen if you really care it is worth working out if you're too hurt you have to let it go or maybe even just take sumtime apart.
2006-06-06 06:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by MiSS RiCH & FamOUs 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He obviously had it in mind to cheat (...a feeling...) it didnt 'just happen'. He is now passively telling you that 'it is your fault he cheated' because you are not 'this' or 'that' enough.
It may be very hard but you need to LET HIM GO! Do not try to read his mind he will only end up breaking your heart again and leave you feeling guilty as if YOU did something wrong when he's the one that cheated...Tell him BYE BYE!
Yes, people make mistakes but you'll only seem 'DESPERATE' if you try to hold on to him.
Dont make it EASY for him. If he really loves,respect and desires to be with ONLY YOU let him do all the ' working out'. If not, then life goes on.
you can do it we're routing for you!
2006-06-06 07:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, if he loved you, he wouldn't cheat. Being away from you is not an excuse either, it just means he is weak and doesn't care about you as much as he wants to. Would he leave you if you cheated? Probably.
I have dated men in long distance, and one cheated and one didn't(and I know he didn't because he's a terrible lier, I would've found out if he had) I cheated on the one who didn't and I learned that I didn't care about him as much as I thought I did. Trust me you need to move on, both of you will be better off in the long run.
2006-06-06 06:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself one simple question: Will you ever trust him 100%?
If no, move on. If so, work it out. I've had experience, and I don't think cheating on them to get even works. I did that one time, and it only made me feel worse. Then I felt bad for using someone to get back at my ex. Basically, if you will never trust him again like you did prior to him cheating, then you need to spare yourself the time and move on. It sucks and it hurts alot, but you have to remember self preservation... you shouldn't have to be with someone that you don't trust. And you certainly don't need the stress of worrying where he is time and time again.
2006-06-06 08:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by Cryss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been planning this for a while. He was just trying to open you up to the idea first by telling you "i may do something i'll regret". This guy is not committed to you. Would probably save you alot of heartache to just let him go until he can grow up a little.
2006-06-06 07:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Why would you stay with someone who cheated on you. If he loved you, he wouldn't cheat. And him saying that you wouldn't understand... What the hell is there to understand? He cheated and that's all there is to it. And he knew he was going to do it, he planed it! And if he had been saying it for weeks then the was obviously seeing her while dating you. He doesn't deserve you, leave him now!
2006-06-06 06:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him. If he is your boyfriend and he is cheating on you, than you can imagen what he will do when you guys married. Maybe he told you so that you would brake up with him. He doesnt have any respect for you or he knows that you would leave him and that s why he went told you. Good luck.
2006-06-06 06:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by esperanza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already knew that he was going to cheat because he he kept on hinting to you that he was having a feeling that he was going to do something that was going to hurt you. He had pre-planned this.
If you think that he is going to do it again then I suggest that you leave him. You can't be with someone you don't trust.
2006-06-06 07:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...you don't want to be with a man who can't stick to loving you and only you. You deserve a real man who only wants to give his love to you. Your boyfriend is just trying to make it sound like no big deal so he can continue to have sex with you and this other girl as well.
2006-06-06 06:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does love you. It's just that he wants other people too. He can't help it. I think you should break up with him. If you don't like what he's doing, then just say its over. I had the same problem before and I broke up with him.
2006-06-06 06:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋