Threats to kill were made if I don't drop child support charges. What do I do?

Question

Mother left kids & moved out of state so she does not have to pay child support. She has no Financial/mental/physical/emot... obligation to my husband's kids- but she got married & has 4 more other kids. My husband is getting her for child support- then gets is life threatened by her husband promising to kill him because they cant afford child support! What do we do- live with the fear of threats (which most of it is talk- but you never know!) or keep on with the child support- becuase as a BIRTH mother has an obligation to her own children- not just leave them to have more, and not be responisible!

Answer 1

First of all, do you have any physical evidence of the threats? If you do, and even if you don't, you need to contact the authorities right away! That is unacceptable behavior, and is not to be taken lightly.
Second--yes, she does have an obligation; however, the question you need to ask yourselves is, how much do you really want to have to deal with these people for the rest of your lives?? Do you need the money majorly or are your husband's kids being taken care of well enough without it? What is the "real" reason you guys are going after the child support now that she's had 4 other kids and a new husband? Realistically, the amount is not going to be much, if they aren't very well off income-wise anyway. The thing to do, might be to see if she (the poor-excuse-for-a-mother) is willing to sign away ALL of her rights, and be done with her forever. GL and be strong.

Answer 2

Child support is a court ordered responsibility. In our state, there is a formula used to determine how much and which parent should pay. It is based on income and how often the children spend time with each parent. The income of the spouse is not taken into consideration when determining child support costs. Leaving the state does not absolve you of your child support responsibilities. As the step-mother, I would think you would not have any legal stand in pushing for child support payments from the birth mother of your husband's children. He may want to suggest to her, through a lawyer, that she terminate her parental rights. He may even be able to petition the court for termination of parental rights if she does not make contact with the children nor pays court ordered child support. In regards to the death threats, you need to document the threats. When were they made - day and time, who called, what was said exactly? If you have Caller ID and an answering machine, try to get the threats on tape. Let your local police department know you are receiving the threats and let them make contact to the local police of the town where the birth mother and her husband live. It is probably just threats, but you are right, you never know what could happen. Your step-children deserve the money that is owed to them, you should not back down because of threats.

Answer 3

Get a device from your local electronics store that records conversations that is voice activated on your phone lines. CHeck first if in your state this is legal to record a conversation. In Indiana as long as one of the parties knows it's being recorded its legal. Then if they call and make the threats you will have it. Keep going with the child support inforcement. She's a dead beat mom who has no business bringing more children into this world if she cant take care of the first ones.

Answer 4

I think you should way the pros and cons in this.
1) Is the mother having anything to do with the children at this time, if so then she should have to support them. If not then let well enough alone the children are better off without her in there life. Threats are against the law, trun them in. Tell you lawyer about this and see what thry would say about it

Answer 5

The first thing I'd do is inform the police. This person has crossed the line and may endanger not only your husband's life but yours and the kids as well. Report what happened and let the police advise what you should do. My advice would probably be not to back off, but you need to do whatever necessary to protect your family.

Answer 6

Pursue the child support order through all available legal means. Document the time and date of any threats made. Notify local police that you have received these threats. When child support is ordered, request payroll deducted support. My ex wife owes me for 10 years back support on one child. I will probably never see it, though, for she is a chronic drug addict. Good luck -

Answer 7

File a report with police and Child Protective Services. Let your attorney know what is going on. Document every threat.....date,time, what was said exactly. Have witnesses on speaker phone if possible to have people to back up your claims. Record conversations if possible as well.

Answer 8

YES SHE NEEDS TO PAY AND YOU NEED TO RECORD THE DEATH THREATS AND TURN HIM IN TO THE LOCAL POLICE WHERE HE LIVES IF ITS OVER THE PHONE AND INVOLVES MORE THAN 1 STATE HE COULD FACE FEDRAL CHARGES AND AT THE LEAST IT CALL TERRORISTIC DEATH THREATS AND HOW WILL HE SUPPORT HER AND THE KIDS WHEN HE IS IN JAIL DONT BE SCARED STICK UP FOR YOU KIDS SCEW THIS ***** WHY SHOULD SHE NOT HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF HER KIDS JUST CAUSE SHE HAS A NEW LIFE???

Answer 9

Report the threats. Get a restraining order and continue with the case. If the table were turned, that's what she would do.

Answer 10

Report her to the police. In the eyes of the court, she is still partially financial responsible for her children. Or...keepher out of their lives, and support them yourselves.