Ever find yourself crying over something you didn't think you were upset about?

Question

I've just spent 40 minutes crying my eyes out at my psychiatrist's appointment and I don't really know why........

I was talking about some of the stuff that's been going on recently, and then somehow ended up talking about my Granny dying, which happened 3 years ago and I thought I was totally over the grief from that.......but it seems I'm not. It's just weird, because I thought I was over all that, and I don't know where the tears came from.

Now I just feel embarrassed, I hate crying in front of people. And I wasn't even feeling THAT bad today when I went to the appointment.......

have you ever found yourself crying over something you didn't think you were upset about? How did you feel afterwards? Because now I feel really strange, kind of numb.

Answer 1

Oh hon, what you just experienced is completely normal :)

Everyone has emotional triggers. These triggers are usually our heart-strings. They are the things or areas in our lives w/unresolved issues or feelings.

Also, since you were crying about the death of your grandmother from 3 yrs ago, it’s not unusual to be experiencing another stage of the grieving process. Sometimes it can take yrs. Each person grieves differently & at different rates. In today’s society where we have more demands of our time, emotions & resources more than ever, it’s not uncommon for someone to not have finished the grieving process, even several yrs later. Often we don’t allow ourselves the time TO grieve so that we can complete it so that we can heal from it.

Allow yourself to grieve. Also, don’t be afraid to explore w/your therapist why this is effecting you so. It sounds like there could be another reason there, under all this, that you may need to work on.

It’s not unusual to have one thing lead to another. Like w/what happened w/you today. You were discussing one thing & it eventually lead to talking about the death of your grandmother. The reason this/these things happen like that is because of the reasons that link them. These are your triggers.

Best of luck to you!

Btw, I’ve spent a few yrs in therapy myself & have had this happen MANY times ;)

Answer 2

I think I understand what you mean. Once, I went to the counselor at my college to report that my best Friend had not been on campus for about two Weeks. I had to go because I'm a member of the student council. Anyway I knew that she had been going through some problems that I could not tell anyone about. But, I found that while I was there I started crying and could not stop. I had not even realized that her problems had affected me that much. There, I was crying my eyes out in front of a lecturer that I did not even like. Worse, I could not seem to stop. Up to this day I don't know why I broke down at that point. What I believe happens in situations like this is that we were bottling up feelings that we were not even aware that we were experiencing. Then, at that moment when we least expect or want it it is like everything comes crashing down. I have found that after awhile I begun to feel better and the tears helped me to deal with my true feelings.

Answer 3

((((((Sure have)))))).... So thankful I am , for all the gentle nudges from mentors, who helped me when I began my journey long ago to unravel and understand the depth of my pain.
Healing from any emotional pain is hard work ! Pain often resonates when we touch base with stored memories and unfinished issues. Suddenly and often unprepared something /someone triggers our emotional memory bank... only to find ourselves swimming against the torrid currents of pain unforgotten .
Sometimes it's an age factor...Just to young to understand or never being taught how to cope and heal. Sometimes we just tuck it away for safe keeping. (HUMMMM) Many are taught to just put a bandaid on it ( Can't see it ...so it doesn't exist and it must be getting better ! ) I grew up in a a family where the Magic Wand was Denial !
This past year has been very difficult for me, as I lost both my parents. (So much left unsaid/unresolved ) Low and Behold, I found myself overwhelmed and once again sifting through...many painful childhood/adult memories. I too... experienced myself feeling very numb. Yet, I also understood the dangers of numbing, as you think your safe, but it is really a snare ! ( Simply put.... if you can't feel ..you don't deal ! )
Tears are a Blessings........Watering our soul allowing us to
re-seed our life with healing.
Many Blessings...AutumnSoul

Answer 4

Yes, I've done this before. It's amazing, isn't it, what your psyche can pull out?

I find just talking to a therapist always does this to me. I start talking about stuff and somehow end up on subjects I seldom think about, and the tears just flow. It feels like a cleansing, and I feel better afterwards. Like I've expunged a bunch of crap that's been building up. Like cleaning out my emotional storage.

Don't worry about it too much, sweetie, that's what therapy is for. Just try to be as honest with yourself as you can about stuff that's bothering you.

Answer 5

I had one of those the other day. I was stressed about work, and was telling my gf. She looked at me and I just started crying out of nowhere, I cried for five or ten minutes. I felt good after the fact. You shouldn't feel embarrassed.

Answer 6

its pain that we repress when its too much to deal with at the time, so it gets pushed right to the back of our minds and then when your ready, whoosh out it all comes. i have done it myself a few times at first i felt weird and couldn't understand why i was crying but after a while i felt relieved like someone had just lifted the world off my shoulders.
its so much better for you to let your pain out than keep it locked up inside. don't be embarrassed!

Answer 7

Happens all the time, that is great to hear you had such a break through, I'm sure that you will see alot of progress from here on out. Best wishes

Answer 8

It sounds like you have a bout of depression, time is a great healer, I know I have been there, and I 'm a bloke,
good luck it will get better (promise), oh dont feel embarrased, let it out, your friends if they are will have to understand

Answer 9

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Answer 10

i think when we are emotional in the first place it leads us to recall other very emotional times... and they sort of get stacked up and snowball. my boyfriend recently broke up with me and crying about him leads me to think of the other not so great times with men... which leads to more crying! i hope that helped. hope you feel better and take care!