What advise will you give a 19yr old girl who believe she is ready to date? She believes and has been praying a lot for God to give her HIS very best. And she thinks she has found it. Should she go ahead and start dating? I mean real dating, not da high school kind of dating. She's a sophomore at a university.
2006-06-06 06:15:33 · 12 answers · asked by God's Creation 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
For some of you guys that are being ignorant, please dont write anything. She doesnt want to date for dating sake. She wants to date to learn more about who she's marrying. What she wants to know is if she's old enough to even think of marraige or anything or dat sort. If you have nothing encouraging to say dat will help her, PLEASE DONT WRITE ANYTHING. Thank you
2006-06-06 06:23:53 · update #1
Well, the guy she is thinking about is 24yrs old. He's a deacon of da church she attends.
2006-06-06 06:27:13 · update #2
I don't see why not. You can't get married if you don't date.
2006-06-06 06:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is not bad. How will you find a husband lest' you date. Our pastor used to say it like this: God made someone out there in this world just for you, his parents have been grooming him just for you...and when the appropriate time comes, you will find one another. That's a comforting thought.
You should make a list of wants and needs and don't settle for less. Though no one's perfect, you should set a standard for yourself. It's a lot easier if the two of you are on the same page however, both Christians....more than likely you'll have like goals in the way of a holy relationship. Being unevenly yoked makes this harder...
God isn't opposed to courting, it's those things that sometimes come as a result of courting... and those things will definately come, so ti's important not to tie yourself to someone that you have no future with.
If you're trying to be a true Christian, fornication is the big hang up. For obvious reasons... With AIDS, other less severe STD's, pregnancy etc. this can be scary. I can see why we are warned to leave these activities within the confines of a monogomous marriage.
The saying goes,when you find him, if he loves you enough, he will wait....easier said than done however... But having one-mindedness about this subject, makes it easier to abstain until marriage because if this is a serious goal, you will hold each other accountable because you know that God's watching.
Good Luck!
2006-06-06 06:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Cynimon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that I have really spent a lot of time thinking about and stuff so I hope this helps.
I have found that the Bible doesn't really say anything about whether you should date or not. The one "rule" is that we as Christians shouldn't be "unequally yoked" or in any kind of a serious relationship with someone who isn't a Christian.
So I would say that if this guy is a Christian and is really following the Lord with all of his heart, and you have prayed about it and feel like this is something the Lord has for you, go ahead and date the guy! Just make sure that you have prayed about it and also get someone's advice who is also a Christian and who knows the guy. They won't be emotionally involved and can give you an honest opinion of him.
Good luck and God bless!
2006-06-06 06:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say "His very best", are you referring to a particular guy or what? If you want to date then date. It's your choice as to who, and the Bible has a lot of guidance in that direction, Old and New Testament. I've been a sophomore in college, decades ago, and as I look back I have to admit that I don't see much difference between them and highschool students, in maturity or book knowledge, so, if I were you, I'd look to my relationship with God and what you may actually know about relationships and dating and hormones, yours and his, as the key factors in whether you decide to date. Also, if you're still living with your parents, you may have some guidelines there that God would demand you pay attention to, so don't forget that. God Bless you and good luck.
2006-06-06 06:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The church I used to go to said that the Bible says, that you can only date those who follow and believe in him. So I left cause and now I'm married to a wonderful man.
2006-06-06 06:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by halochick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, she's 19, not 15, which means she's legally an adult and can start dating. What does God have to do with it? If she hooks up with an idiot, will she blame God?
2006-06-06 06:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by Antique Silver Buttons 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Courting isn't bad. The bible never says it's bad. Go for it, and remember to put God as the center of your relationship.
2006-06-06 06:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by JG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is a normal part of growing up. You cannot find someone if you don't extend yourself to meet others at some point.
2006-06-06 06:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by jenepher402 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
proverbs
31 1- 12
2006-06-06 06:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by babyfacesie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a rib, adam lost you.
he has to find you.
you have to act the way something thats lost looks.
modest.
2006-06-06 06:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by Piffle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋