i think i'm in love with two guys. i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years but we have always had problems. i love him and would do anything for him but a year ago i met a guy who i like alot we always talk (my boyfriend doesn't know he would kill us both) and we have kissed a few times i feel bad because i don't know what to do
2006-06-06 05:52:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You aren't really in love then. You are infatuated. It's that butterflies in the stomache feeling that is most often deplicted in movies as love.
I think you should dump them both and spend sometime figuring yourself out.
Definately dump the guy who you've had 'problems' with. You're too young for 'problems' in any relationship. My guess is that you are too young for a serious relationship anyhow....I mean if you are refering to infatuation as love, then you have a long ways to go before you settle down.
I say get out there, date a lot, and don't get tied down. Live it up while you have the chance because if you stay tied down now, you may never have another opportunity to experience all these great aspects...
To me, it sounds like you just like being sought after. I don't think you love either of them, you just like being the object of affection.
Don't jerk your boyfriend around, think about if he were doing this to you...
Oh by the way, don't misuse the word love...it cheapens the word...and in the eyes of more intelligent men, it cheapens the user.
Be wise! Good luck!
2006-06-06 05:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two ways to look at your situation. Having a committed stable relationship when were are young can be a good thing because the stability of the relationship can be a constant during our early years which can be so emotionally turbulent. So staying with your first boyfriend is something that that could offer. However, unless this is the one you have decided to spend the rest of your life with that individual (it is not a decision to be taken lightly), exploring your options is definitely a great way of broadening your experience with the opposite sex.
Just remember, it is human nature look at relationships with a grass is always greener on the other side mentality. However, true long term loving relationships require COMMUNICATION, compromise, sacrifice, understanding, and mutual respect. Young men are not emotionally mature enough in their earlier years to make those issues a priority. What I would suggest is that if you are happy in your current relationship, then focus your attention on that, because there will always be someone else to come along.
Good luck.
2006-06-06 13:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that you are in love with the other guy..i think that you infatuated with the way he treats you and the things you two might do together. i think that this other guy is just filling the void that your bf cant full fill for you. its obvious that you and your bf are not completely happy and whether than use some other guy to fill someones else shoes i think you should take a break form the two of them to analyze your relationship with your bf and the possibility that it may be time to break things off and find someone who truly full fills your needs. you are content right now with the situation because the two of them together make that whole man you are really looking for
2006-06-06 13:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by dasure2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl !!!! anyway, you have to make up your own mind about this... no one knows you or them, so how can I or anyone give an opinion here...... YOU need to weigh the options... listing good stuff and bad about both or just let your heart guide you... and as for going behind your b/f's back !!! BAD.... and to tell the truth, that is I think your answer... if you love someone you do NOT cheat or lie or keep this kind of thing from them...... I think you know the answer to your question !!!!!!!! God bless
2006-06-06 12:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your disgusting. you give us females a bad name. Learn to have some integrity instead of opening yourself to any guy who walks by. I mean, how would you feel if your boyfriend made out with another chick, and liked it. God, what a "wonderful" world we live in... Actually you should go with the guy you kissed. Your boyfriend deserves a girl who will actually treat him with respect and honesty, something you never will have in a relationship.
2006-06-06 12:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lee L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know u are in a big situation and i totally understand. i have been with my ex-husband for 10 years, we got a divorce 4 years ago. iam currently in a relationship for 4 years and i still sleep with my ex-. my current boyfriend wants a commit by moving in together. iam so confused, my feelings now have changed and all has worked out the best. i told my ex to leave me alone, and iam moving in with my boyfriend now. just think, who makes you laugh, shows you affection, respects and loves you. remember your relationship is not working out and you are not happy, otherwise you wouldn't be cheating on him. good luck.
2006-06-06 12:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not in love. its possible that you find the good qualities in the second guy that your boyfriend is not giving you, so you found it in the second guy and you like it, but it does not seem like your in love with either of the guys. If you were in love with your boyfriend you wouldn't be talking to another guy, and you don't seem to be in love with the second guy either cause your still with your boyfriend. so choose the one you wan to be with and drop the other cuz, then are both going to find out and drop you.
2006-06-06 12:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by illi23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave your boyfriend it sounds like you have a dysfunctional relationship. He kind of sounds a little bit like a jerk too. You may want to just have time to yourself to discover the kind of person you are, this way in the future you won't even have to make a choice like that.
2006-06-06 12:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by chiteface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one get rid of both boyfriends
Number two grow up and stay away from any relationship for at least one year until you really know what you want from a man.....
2006-06-06 12:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by howlincoyote 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u say u guys have problems..who makes u happier? happyness is the most important thing to keep and find in ur short life we all live...dont waste it with someone ur not happy with..u guys been together for 2 years...u love him but ur also "attached" to him...i cnt tell u who do b with but u should know...whoever makes u feel better about urself is the most important ...ur choice..its not fair for ur bf to have a girl he loves messing around like that..NO ONE wants to be with someone like that..if u really cared about ur bf u wouldnt do this to him..even tho he doesnt know ur still hurting him...if ur bf had another girl how would u feel and wouldnt u want him to tell you?
2006-06-06 13:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋