My child is 8 months old and his dad has done absolutely nothing for him....Not even a stinkin rattle! THEY ONLY COST A DOLLAR FOR GOD SAKE!!! hewww....O.K! Recently, I was homeless and had nowhere to go so he took my son and I in for a week. While we stayed with him, he was asking ME for money (What the ****?!) O.K, Now that I have my own place, he comes by and tries to stay the night (by the way, he didn't give me any money to help me move nor did he help me move my things into my new place). I had to depend on the kindness of strangers to get my things moved in because he was nowhere to be found. He comes by and eats food that he didn't buy and wants to sleep in a bed that he didn't buy and wants to LOOK in my our son's face! Why? The clothes he has on, either me or a member of my family provided it for him. I don't want to cut him out of our lives compeletly but I don't really know what else to do. He can't keep reaping the benefits of all of my hard work and my familys' kindness!
2006-06-06 04:59:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2006-06-06 05:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by ALYSON MILCHACKA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should completely forget about him and focus on you and your child because he is nothing but a freeloading deadbeat. He does not deserve the title of "father" because a father is someone who provides for you, someone who makes you feel safe, someone you can depend on. A father is not someome who comes by only when they are hungry or want a place to sleep at night.Do the best thing for your child. Don't even think about his dad.
2006-06-06 12:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Silly KeKe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop letting him just drop in and do what ever he wants. let him see your son and then tell him that it is time to go. if he cant be a daddy to your baby, dont let him be a bum. set a schedule for him to visit with him and then send him on his way. it doesnt sound like he wants to be a part of your sons life, it sounds like he just wants free food and a free bed. dont let him have it. you have to work for what you have and if he doesnt help you when you need it, dont help him. my sons father has also been absolutely useless, but that is ok. he doesnt get to see him or know the beautiful little person that will never call him daddy. if you dont let him have his way, you will learn the same way i did that they really dont want a relationship with the baby anyway. good luck and dont allow him to mess with the emotions of that baby!!
2006-06-06 12:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by sammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should most definitely terminate his access to your home, food, whatever. Its time for you to seek legal councel and file child support against him. He was just as responsible for the conception of your child as you were. He needs to take responsibility. If he can't do it on his own, maybe child support services being on his butt will help him out. I would also make sure you establish visitation guidelines as well. He can't just come and go as he pleases. You and your child deserve more than that.
2006-06-06 12:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by balabon77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes girl i am going threw the same thing the longer he stays the worse it is going to get and your will no longer have the emotional engery to do anything by waisting it all on this ******.
2006-06-13 11:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by Maghony B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a loser! Get rid of him! Lock your door, don't let him in! Sounds like a mooch!
I wouldn't let my baby have anything to do with someone like that! I wouldnt want my baby turning into somene like that! He needs to be surrounded by good people who care about him and are a good influence!
So get rid of him!
2006-06-06 12:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to put up with him, it sounds like to me that you don't need him you can do bad byourself you don't need a man to help you to do that. So my personal advice to you is stop letting him come over, because he sounds like a ****yooser.Please let him go.
2006-06-06 12:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by cherries_4_ever33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need him. Throw him out. You sound like you can take care of that child by yourself anyway.
2006-06-06 12:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GURL if i was u i would kick his sorry *** out and if he dout leave i'll have my big brother and other family members to kick his Bit** a**
2006-06-06 12:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by chocolatetexasgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one word LOOSER. Kick his sorry *** to the curb, cause he is not doing a damn thing to help in the well being of his child (that he by the way probably had fun making).
2006-06-06 12:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by samkat1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out of ur life and get peace
2006-06-06 13:03:09 · answer #11 · answered by donven9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋