As a mother of a 5 and 4 year old, I am thinking of introducing them to my male friend...?

Question

I have been friends with this man for 6 years. He knows all about the children and only now are we getting close. Should they "meet" him.

Answer 1

Only introduce your children to men you’re dating if it look like it getting serious. Children are very impressionable, easy hurt and unforgiving. The things that they are exposed to at young ages strongly set them in the way they will go as adults. I break up between the tow of you may really hurt attached children

Answer 2

They should only meet this man when and if your relationship with this man is long term thing. You stated that "we getting close" to be that means you're not quite there yet. You should only introduce your sons to men that you are serious with and plan a future with. Because if not they (your children) may end up knowing alot of short term men who is in and out of your life. Children needs to see and being in a consistence state of being. You wouldnt want your children to be attached to someone is turns out not to be right for you.

Answer 3

I don't think there's anything wrong with introducing your children to your friend. Is the friendship/relationship gonna be a lasting one though. It could become confusing to children if it becomes a in and out thing. Consider your options from all aspects. If you do decide to let him meet them explain the situation in entirety to them. They need to totally understand everything. Good luck!

Answer 4

If you guys have been together for that long, then I say go for it. It seems to me that your relationship is growing and there comes a time when the next step should be taken, and after 6 years it sounds to me like it's time.

I'm glad that you have waited, I'm not sure I could wait quite as long as you have, but I think people tend to push their kids into a relationship of some guy/girl they met 5 months ago and that makes it difficult for the kids. If you have known each other for that long and are growing closer I think it's probably time.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I went thru a divorce when my girls where at the tender age of 6 and 8. here is how i introduced a really good male friend into their lives.

all we did was make a pic nic at a park and had a blast...not only did the girls have fun...i got to see first hand how he reacted to spending a day with them...cranky and all...we did this several times...parks... movies ..and going for pizza...then after 2 yrs of having fun...the girls asked me if we were EVER gonna get married. lol

Answer 6

Yes, you've taken it slow. Introduce them while on a fun family outing. Kids are more receptive when they are having fun. Explain to them that he is a friend of YOURS and not a second father. They are still young yet, so it will be okay.

Answer 7

most definately. However, do not allow him to promise them things. Most women I know have had this problem with the men they have introduced to their children. They always think they have to buy the kids stuff or promise to take them places (and most of the time, they do NOT keep their word).

Answer 8

yes i believe if he already knows about the children then he should have know problem meeting them and getting to know them!! and who knows it might work out or you guys because yo do have to be honest in a relationship sence you have children in your life!! i have a 19 month old and before i go out with a guy i tell him i have a hild and i let them meet and then we go out so if he can't exceppt the fact that you have children then you would be better of eith out him!!!! good luck to you and i hope it works out!!and i know you are proud of those children because i am so proud of mine!!

Answer 9

Ask the father of the children first.

Answer 10

wait till you are for sure its going to go somewhere, you wouldn't want the kids to get hurt if it doesn't work out. Dr. Kevin Lehman has some great books that offer suggetions and advice on how to correctly handle this subject.