2006-06-06 04:51:28 · 10 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Make it half and half, first in the church and then outside in the yard with everybody participating in the traditional ceremonies.
2006-06-06 04:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget that this is his wedding too. Personally, I think church weddings are over-rated. I wanted one at first, then found a really gorgeous event center that I'm really glad I went with. We brought our pastor from our church in to do the ceremony. If you do the wedding in a neutral place, you don't have to worry about following the church's guidelines on what you can & can't do. Then you could mix traditional church things with traditional African things. It would be beautiful & really reflect you both! One church we looked at didn't allow non-Christian music to play during the ceremony, another you had to use one of their pastors, etc. It was nice to have the freedom to do what we wanted.
2006-06-06 14:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by Pigskin Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's the bride's wedding and she should have the final say. You should also take into consideration the finanaces. Many churches (if you are a memeber) will aloow you to hold the wedding there for free or for a very low fee. And there are other churches that will do the same thing for those who are not members. Maybe talk about a compormise. Have it in the church and with an African theme
2006-06-06 11:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you compromise? Have a church wedding and then at the reception, perform the "traditional" rituals of an African wedding.
Or, decide which way to get married now and then have another ceremony in 5 years how the other wanted it to be.
Good luck!
2006-06-06 11:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by intelligentaphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about a church wedding and a traditional reception. Combine the two traditions. Its a compromise. If you are getting married it is full of compromises, start with the first major one.
2006-06-06 12:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by boyssxymommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's christianity in africa, so even if u go ahead n have a trad weddin 'along with the church weddin' as most ppl do in nigeria (my country dat is), am sure both families involved would understand that you wont participate in any of the rituals. he's the man you chose to marry so I fink dat there should be som compromise from you (and sure from both sides)
2006-06-06 12:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by Concoction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't agree on what kind of wedding to have, you're going to have bigger problems than that. You need to sit down and talk more before getting married.
2006-06-06 11:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...And this is only the beginning of the problems that happen between people who get married and come from different cultures...
Just a friendly warning.
You are both going to have to make alot of sacrifices to make this work.
2006-06-06 11:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kitten 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can u mix both of them so u both can be happy
2006-06-06 11:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by baby girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her
2006-06-06 11:54:22 · answer #10 · answered by rivers_of_life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋