why do men hit there wife's?

Question

my husband hits me and i don't understand what i did to desever it he hit me be for and i hit back but this time i was scard he only hit my face one time but never lift mark he always hits my arms and this last time it lift a mark he was going hit me in my face but i had my sonin my arms so he hit my arm and all i could do was set there i was to scared to move why does this happen to me or any body also why do men hurt there wifes. will it get worst

Answer 1

Men usually hit women when they are angry. Men are not good at expressing their feelings. Oftentimes a physical reaction is the inappropriate means they use. Men who hit will continue to hit without some kind of counseling. Don't wait too long usually during their remorse they offer to do anything. It is the perfect time to offer an ultimatum. Get help or get out! Don't let your guard down though just because he says yes he will. If he stops the counseling before completing it; he will continue to hit. Be very careful and I recommend professional services for both of you. I would be happy to guide you to services. You are right you don't deserve being hit. He has no right and it is extremely inappropriate behavior.

Answer 2

Men usually learn it from watching their own parents. Your husband has not developed healthy outlets for his anger or frustration. It is NEVER ok to hit someone and yes, it will continue and it will get worse. Someday he may hit your child. You need to realize that you DO NOT deserve to be hit and deserve to be loved by a man that can express is negative feelings in a healthy way. You should look up your local women's shelter and get some help. Perhaps calling the police next time and getting your husband arrested would wake him up into getting help, but until you stand up for yourself and tell him you're going to leave, it will continue. It may be safer to run now. I found that once an abuser, always an abuser.

I had a boyfriend fracture my cheekbone with a punch when I was 21 and I was out of there. No second chances, no matter how much he begged. He ended up severely hurting the next girl he dated. You owe it to your child to get out.

Answer 3

Oh yes honey take it from experience, thank god I was not married to that one. If you are too scared to go it alone you need some kind of support system, family, friends or an actual support group. I have to differ with wiserangel on only one thing, my hubby I have now abused me in the beginning but should I say he grew up (me finally hitting back and him realizing I was not a weakling helped). Yes for the most part they do not change their ways, but I knew there was good in him. Now yours on the other hand hit you while holding your SON!! There is no good in him, you need to report him and get out!

Answer 4

mostly its because he wants to take out his anger on someone or somthing...i have gone a lot of times to the verge of hitting my girlfriend but i hold back...but i guess when u r married there are a lot more complexes...but ill tell u this...dont let him take it for granted that u'll saty with him no matter what he does to u..u r a women the two greates powes u have over him is to deny him sexual pleasure and to make him feel that he is alone..ost women dont use these because they love the person too much but u must understand that if u really love him u must take these steps so that he always stays civil, sane and that u both stay together...i might be going out of topic but the answer for ur question revolves around these thats why i am sayin all this... men hit women because they need to feel that they have power over atleast one thing in life when things get out of hand or they face a failure..they need to reassure themselves that there is omething that they can still hurt or do watever they want to...they need to feel that they too can b strong... and the man that fights this urge is the one thats called a gentleman... hope u get a divorse or u get ur husband to change...sincerely hope u live a happier life...remember that u deserve better...

Answer 5

You did nothing to deserve it. He is insecure & taking it out on you. No one deserves to be hit. It happens because some men are cowards. Hitting is the coward's way out. He is taking out his anger on you. He needs to find out why he is so angry & get help.Some men think that once they get those marriage certificates, it gives them the right to do anything they want to to thier wives. They think of them as property. You need to get out!!!! Yes it will get worse. It will only get worse. Please call a womens shelter or the national abuse hotline & get some help getting out.The numbers are in your phone book. Do it for your sake & the sake of your son. When he gets tired of hitting you, he could start on your son. Lots of women in your situation have been murdered by thier husbands. Hope this helps answer your questions. GET OUT NOW!!!!!

Answer 6

Get out NOW! My mother was in an abusive relationship and she ended up in prison for killing her abuser. This tore our whole family apart and it took many years to become whole again. It never was really the same. Don't let something like this happen to you. Seek out a women's shelter. They will assist you. There wasn't as much help back in the day when this happened in my family. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Yes, it will get worse. You should leave. Find someplace safe to go. Like a friends house or relative. He will tell you he didnt mean it, he loves you, it wont happen again. He needs help.
Ive seen to many women get hurt by their men, some even killed. Please, at least for the safety of your child. No child should have to grow up in a violent home. Good luck and take care. Please look into leaving, ok.

Answer 8

Real men don't hit their wives. Leave this fool and get away from him. Get to a women's shelter and have them help you deal with this situation so that you will be safe and he hopefully won't hurt anyone else.

Answer 9

Yes, it will get worse. He's not going to stop because you stayed there with him after the abuse, so now he thinks he can do what he wants and you'll stay there, like you have in the past. Hate to tell ya this but, he'll do it as long as you let him. think of this, what would you tell your daughter?

Answer 10

Get help right away. People like him need to spend some time in prison.File for divorce and get a restraining order.