my mom gets mad about everything that i do. how call i tell her she needs help. please no bs answers. serious

Question

this is a very serious issue

Answer 1

Suggest to her that you think your relationship needs help. That you should go to counseling together. If she won't go then try to go to counseling by yourself. Sometimes people are angry. SHe might be angry and taking it out on you. Or you might be doing unacceptable things. Like did she really get mad at you about doing the dishes and vacuuming and washing her car for her? did she really get mad that you made straight A's? Did she get mad that you made your bed?

Answer 2

To start with, try looking at what you are doing that is making her mad. If, by "everything that I do", you mean leaving your bike in the driveway, failing to put your dishes in the dishwasher, not doing the things she asks you to do to help around the house, leaving your room a mess, putting your feet on the coffee table, getting bad grades, talking back to her, staying out past curfew, tying up the phone and the computer for hours on end, walking through the house with dirt on your shoes, not doing your homework, etc., then she has every right to get mad at you, and you should try harder to do things the way a good, respectful, helpful son should.

If you mean that she is in a bad mood all the time and never seems happy, you might try suggesting that she talk to her doctor about an antidepressant. She may not seem "depressed", but anger and agitation are signs of depression.

Answer 3

Your age is important for a seriously appropriate suggestion.

So, we'll take a shot these: 12-16 years old: Puberty is a difficult time for both the child and the parent/parents. The child is not feeling like a child; they are feeling more grown up in some ways, but very frightened about the whole situation. They are asserting their own levels of free will and the parents do not have complete control anymore. This frightens the parents as well as the child. If your mother is yelling and screaming at you all the time, she could be experiencing some depression or something at work is bothering her. Talk to a school counselor about this. Her screaming and yelling is a sign that she feels as if she's lost control over things in here life, and it's also abusive to you. You're very sensitive to see that she may need some help.

Do you have an aunt or uncle or grandparent who may be able to come and visit for a while? If you talk to them and tell them your concerns, maybe a visit will be just what she needs. Sometimes we adults feel completely overloaded with responsibilities. Just the thought that some other adult will be around for a while to help is just what the doctor ordered.

Be conciously respectful, grateful, and ask, "How are you, Mom?" I know that may be opening up a whole yelling fest if she's on your back about cleaning your room, doing your homework, picking up after yourself, etc., but try it anyway---at least until another adult can speak to her.

Talk to her----tell her you love her. Tell her "thank you" for your clothes, for her washing you clothes, for cooking your meals, for going to work every day.....Sometimes "thank you, Mom," can be the words that will heal a multitude of pains.

I'm not forgetting you either. I know you may be feeling a little neglected and, maybe, you feel like your mother doesn't love you. Your mother loves you; she may not be crazy about herself right now. I am sorry you are having to experience this situation. Growing up and facing grown-up problems is difficult at any age.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE talk to your school counselor, a pastor, a teacher, a relative you know your mother likes, a friend's mom or dad...another adult---who can take your mom a cake or some flowers, sit and talk with her. A touch of kindness like that will help both of you.

You are in my prayers.

Answer 4

Anger is a secondary emotion that is usally rooted in something deeper. People don't just walk around being angry. There is something causing the anger, usally pain, frustration, stress etc. To suggest to her that she needs help, will only make the problem worse. Try to look at her with compassion, that she's going through more than is obvious. Try to love her when she's angry, this will break the cycle. I think of a time a few days ago, when I was very upset, and hurt inside over something my boyfriend had done. He could sence it in me, and he just said to me in the evening... what's wrong..I can tell there's something going on. He said it very compassionately, and my heart broke. I was able to talk to him about it, and it healed the situation..I'm not saying to be a councellor to your mom, that's not your job. I'm just saying to see that there is something deeper going on, that you may not be aware of. She may not even be aware of it. Love is always the answer though. It will help her heart to heal. God bless

One more thing, I am also a mom of two kids. I have my days when I get angry, but it is always because of something else that's going on in my life. It never has to do with my kids. I just sometimes take it out on them. It's not right, but I'm human too. I just try to do my best to improve that.

I hope this helps

Answer 5

Before I could seriously answer this question I would have to know how old you are, what you have done in the past. Or what has happened to cause her great distrust in you. I work with Alternative Students who say this same thing to me every day. Maybe you should sit down and have a chat with her with a third party present so that you can work through whatever is going on.
Best of Luck!

Answer 6

If you really think she has an anger problem, you need to let an adult know who you can trust. But it's very important that you not accuse her of being unfair if you are not doing what you should be doing. If you really feel like she needs help, then the only way you will be able to present that idea to her is if you are handling yourself well, i.e., doing what she asks you to do, and not arguing with her, and staying calm in times of adversity. I said a prayer for you.

Answer 7

First off what is she getting mad about? Is she mad at you for coming home late or is she mad at you for even walking in the same room as she is in?

If she is mad at the latter issue then maybe you should sit down with her and talk to her about how she is treating you. If you can't talk to her then go to an adult that you trust. Maybe a teacher or counselor, coach.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Talk to n Aunt or grandmother and tell them your concerns hopefully they might make a comment to your mum about what a good kid you are, your mum might just need reassurance that you love her as well, us mums are a strange bunch all we want is a hug or a thanks mum and we get all warm and gushie again, make her a card telling her how much you love her nice points and you might see a huge difference in her. If she gets physical make sure you leave the house and go to someone you can trust.

Answer 9

how old are you? she is probably right about everything being that you posted on the INTERNET about masurbation on a teen board. You are too young to decide if she is right or not, or if she needs help. Dont like it.. move to foster care and see just how much she cares.

Answer 10

how old are you and what kinds of things are you doing. she is trying to keep you from screwing up your life. she has more experience in this field than you do. she doesnt want you to end up dead in a gutter or pregnant or have a disease that will kill you very slowly and painfully. if you messing with drugs and alcohol shes trying to keep you from overdosing and ending up dead or so strung out on them that you wind up killing youself or someone else. also shes trying to keep you out of jail