Me and my boyfriend had been going out for a couple of months. Then he broke up with me claiming that he was going against his morals. We recently got back together but I don't quite feel the same way anymore. He always tells me he loves me, but around other girls he seems very shy, and not very loving at all. I don't love him, what do I do?
2006-06-06 04:05:38 · 26 answers · asked by biprincess_4202004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him it's over and move on. Really. Ever heard of the expression "Tough Love"?
2006-06-06 04:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by illnovelist 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, well having been in your boyfriends situation, however you tell him, don't give him hope. The worst thing you can do to someone when you tell them anything like this, is to say 'maybe if things change ....' 'I might feel differently in a few weeks time ....' 'this isn't forever ....' it's going to hurt him however you say it,rejection always hurts because it's a personal thing. But what makes it harder for the person being 'rejected' is when it's not finalised, when they think there's a chance, or some hope that in the future you'll want them back. It prevents them from accepting, processing and moving on with this information. So you have to be as kind as you can, but make sure you make him aware that it is final, that you want him to find someone else, that he has numerous amazing qualities to share with the right person, but it just isn't you. And maybe don't say 'can we be friends'. because it's not possible to be friends straight away in a situation like this, one person has been hurt, the other has done the hurting, and if you offer friendship his feelings will be so raw and battered that he will still cling to that as a positive reinforcement of your love, believe me,I know.
Tell him what you have to tell him, let him go, and at some point in the future when the hurt has subsided and he feels better about himself, that's when to consider the being friends thing.
I hope it goes well for both of you
2006-06-06 04:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Eden* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel the same way you should let him know because in the end all you have to do is what makes you happy. I know you may think that its will hurt his feelings but the longer you wait to tell him the more his heart will break. I know you do care for him but you not in love with him. Just let him know the way you feel and can't do nothing but respect the fact that you didn't lead him on. I know at first it will hard but in the end you both will be happier. You will feel a big lift off you shoulder's. I hope every thing work out good luck :)
2006-06-06 04:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express your own feelings instead of pointing out what's wrong with him. Just tell him during the break up phase, you got time to think things over and find that you are not really in love with him and it will be morally wrong to stick to a relationship without love.
2006-06-06 04:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll hurt his feelings the least by telling him straight. The longer you take, the worse it will get as his feelings will just go stronger, and you'll only get more irritated and heartless towards him. It's best to do him a favour now and just tell him it's not working anymore.
2006-06-06 04:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always difficult to tell someone you don't love (strong word) them when you've done things that only people in love would do. Therefore, I answer like this. Apologize for selling yourself short. Giving too much too soon to someone you knew too little about. Honesty makes what ever pain arise, subside quicker.
2006-06-06 04:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no way to do it without hurting him.
tell him exactly how you feel. be honest and make it a clean break.
after you do this you are going to feel really bad. this is normal. but remember how you felt now and hold on to that. because if you feel sorry and apologize you are going to wind up in a circle that gets worse and worse every time. so understand that you are going to feel bad and wish you could make it better for this person. but the best way to do this is to make it a clean and honest break.
good luck and remember to stick with your decision and remember how you felt now.
2006-06-06 04:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by sean_mchugh6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy and the sooner the better
he may not like the responce but I bet he can respect the person for being straight with him
2006-06-06 04:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by Sully 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST TELL HIM FLAT LIKE HE DID TO YOU BEFORE. WHY ON EARTH DID YOU GET BACK WITH HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE THAT IS WHAT I AM WONDERING. JUST TELL HIM AND GET IT OVER WITH. DID HE THINK ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS THE FIRST TIME AND THAT TOO HE GAVE YOU A VERY FOOLISH REASON. NOW WHERE ARE HIS SO CALLED MORALS ?? DON'T WASTE A SINGLE MOMENT AND JUST TELL HIM YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH HIM ANYMORE.
2006-06-06 04:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by sudjenni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to break up with him. It sounds like you are both killing time until something better comes along, which isn't fair to either of you. You are going to hurt him no matter what if you don't love him, so don't drag it out.
2006-06-06 04:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by teena9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋