my husband says you dont have to go to everything your invited to..?

Question

example...coworker wedding
coworkers kids grad party
boss kid bar mitzvah
what do you think?

Answer 1

An invitation is generally optional. It's polite to go and if you reject then you may expect them to be "busy" during your event. If you don't know them that well and don't think it will be fun, don't go. If it's someone you care about, you'll probably end up going anyway.

Answer 2

He's right. You do not have to accept every invitation. But you should acknowledge each one.

For example, if you are invited to a coworkers wedding that you & your spouse decide you cannot or do not want to attend, then you should acknowledge receipt of the invitation and express your regrets about not being able to attend. You don't have to give a reason, and for heaven's sake don't lie to the inviter!

Now, as for giving a gift, that's a tougher question. And since you didn't ask, I'll withhold my answer until you do!

Answer 3

I would say that your husband is correct. A polite response that you are unable to attend due to previous commitments is more than acceptable. You need to evaluate how close you are to the person and whether or not you really want to attend. It's a strange area where coworkers are concerned. Some feel that they have to invite everyone in order not to offend anyone.
It is proper, however, to send a gift if you are invited, especially where a wedding invitation is concerned.

Answer 4

You don't need to go to everything that you are invited to. You won't have any time for yourself. I would pick the really big celebrations, like weddings. And maybe attend as many of your boss's parties. If you think your coworker is climbing the ladder. You should attend that celebration. When it comes to work parties its all about networking.

The most important thing is to RVSP.

Answer 5

I believe this is true. You don't have to go to everything you are invited to. Explain that you "get to visit with your mom" that weekend or whatever else you are planning to do. Make sure to wish the a happy occasion, and that you are sorry you will miss it. I think the only thing you are expected to attend is anything that involves a really good friend, family, or boss.

Answer 6

I agree with your husband. I would only attend the invites of my boss and coworkers who I had a good relationship with. However it is appropriate to send them a gift or card if possible.

Answer 7

No, you def don't have to go to everything. For one thing, all the gifts will gets expensive. Not to mention all the days off that will take over. You could always send a card with a little money saying sorry you couldn't attend. That always shows you care but had other engagements.

Answer 8

You definitely do not have to go to everything you're invited to. You get to choose your life and how you want to live and what is important. Are the relationships involved important? How important? Is it expected as part of your work life? Can you make a resonable excuse? [my mother-in-law is visiting that weekend]. You can judge that. You can send a card or even a gift to acknowledge even if you don't go. If you want to go, then go and leave hubby home if he doesn't want to go. It would absolutely kill me if i went to everything i was invited to. There is just too much.

Answer 9

I believe your husband is right... if you work at a large corporation or whatever, that could lead to going broke with gift giving... maybe those of you who aren't attending can come up with gift from all of you and a card....

Answer 10

I agree with your husband only go to the functions you want to go to or feel obligated to go to other than just because you were invited