She is still at school, finishing next year in July. She is a Catholic and Iam a protestant, though I pray from a pentecostal church. She is willing to convert to Protestant, but doesnot like my continuing fellowshiping in Pentecostals. She argues that I should go back to my original religion, to which she is willing to convert. How should I handle this. People out there, advise me.
2006-06-06 02:45:06 · 20 answers · asked by lone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I went through the same thing. You neeed to get this resolved before marriage. Stress how important this is to you. I cannot attend a catholic Church-their beliefs are not my own-and the only place I hear speaking in tongues is at Pentecostal Churches which makes me skeptical-not that I don't believe these people are sincere. You will have to compromise with her. It's hard to make a catholic convert so be happy she is at least willing to do this.
2006-06-06 04:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, if she is leaving school next year, I would say you are much too young to get married. Just because the law says you can marry does not mean you should!
What do your parents think? What do her parents think of her changing religion? I always thought that Pentecostals were Protestants, just a sub-sect of the religion (although I may be wrong here).
What religion will your children be brought up? You need to sort all this out before you marry. However, I go back to my original point - it sounds as though, regretfully, you are too young to get married. If you are still together in 5 years time, then think about getting married.
2006-06-09 00:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to convert? I'm going to guess no. Tell her that you love her and you want everything to work out, but religion is a big problem in marriages now days. Tell her how you feel about your religion. Tell her that you want to continue with your religion but you also want her to continue with her religion as well. You can have a relationship with different religions but it's not going to work if both of you don't respect each other's religion.
2006-06-06 03:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to come to an agreement as to which church you will be going to as a couple.There it is she is willing to join you as a protestant,so maybe you should also forget about pentecostal so as to reach a compromise.
2006-06-06 02:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Bob Mukonka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion plays an important role in many familys; especially in Europe where religion is a focal point and a "hotbed" in Ireland.
I would seek family advice and counsel first.
There has to be a midway point of agreement; it seems like your fiance is taking an enormous leap for you...how far are you willing to go for her?
2006-06-06 02:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that important that it's bothering you, you need to consider what you really NEED from the relationship and whether this religion thing is a deal-breaker. It would be sad, but you have to live with it later. Don't think it's going to die down when you get married...it'll only get worse.
2006-06-06 11:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love each other religion isn't imporatant, it causes enough trouble in the world as it is. I'd go for a registry office wedding then get the wedding blessed. Why do you want to get married so young anyway? being a couple is all about COMPROMISE!
2006-06-07 05:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by wolfstorm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
religion is a hard thing to change.......and i wonder if her changing will be of any use?.......you must enjoy going to your Pentecostal church and i think u should continue doing what make you happy...........then she needs to work out what will make her happy and where she will feel blessed, she should nt just change because u are marrying........if she later dislikes it you will be to blame.....find your own religious route by yourself s if it s ment to be the same it will be.......but if its different don't worrie that's gods plan for you both!
2006-06-07 04:29:02 · answer #8 · answered by simbawifey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion is between you and God. Do what you think is right, but it's a big deal. Hold off getting married until you figure it out.
2006-06-06 07:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by Pigskin Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither of you belong to the dogmatic religion. what is the issue? the church has not banned screening of the da vinci code except the governments in some fanatic countries.
2006-06-06 03:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by greywiseyoung 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋