How to win a girl heart that already have a boyfriend??

Question

I been chasing this girl for almost 2 month she knew that im chasing her but she had a boyfriend.....but i still keep going it as you all know Love Is Blind....if she is not marry is still have the chance!!! Both of us in the same college but her bf in other college so i have more chance....she often come over my place(student house) to study together, we also got went to watch movie b4.....last time her bf suspect something becos both of us skip school(wake up late cos slept at 5am) that she didn't go to school so they have a quarrel and her bf just left walk away from even thought she grab his hand tightly but he just walk away and she phone me and she returning all the gift i bought for her to me i asked her what happen she just cry and cry then finally she speak it out what else can i do ?? so i comfort her and bla bla......she come to my place and sleep overnight(i slept on the floor) i do all i can to comfort her not to cry as i watch her my heart is so pain.......

After a few days she and her boyfriend get along...but her bf still asking her did i still looking for her?? did i sms her ??and she said NO!!.....i asked her bout it that what she answer me but she is still going out with me...she really help me alot on my study and i also help her with other subject.....she just cant make a choice she keep thinking that her bf is the only one for her forever......i really like i wan to be more closer to hee pamper her comfort her make her be the most happiest girl in the world...i don't think her bf is the one for her cos her bf keep asking things like the last time i and her go watch movie her bf ask how long u all watch? what else did both of u do ?? her bf treat her like a Master to a Servant....and she just said yes yes yes she cant stand on her choice she scare she will lose her bf................not much i can do i all can is just wait and wait till someday the person that is one for her is the tat keep helping and caring for her..

b4 i start chasin her i already know that she had a boyfriend...after thinking for a long time i decide to go for it cos i really like her thats why ppl call Love Is Blind...and there is no reason why u love a person......should i work harder? or i just give up??(i really dun wan give up)

looking all the answer....i need more answer.......yes i will wait for her

looking all the answer....i need more answer.......yes i will wait for her

so which is the best thing i should do now ??

1st: slowly wait care for her, be there when she need help

2nd: tell her to make her decision fast(bad idea)

im so confuse now !!! help me =.=

Answer 1

The pursued never pursue. Forget about her in that sense. That in itself may make her want to be with you.

Plenty of fish in the sea.

Answer 2

dear friend, just let time take its course. you are still studying so maybe another girl may come by and you may start liking her. but this may also not happen and you may keep liking this girl. if she has an over possessive boyfriend who makes her cry then just be with her as a good friend. be the strong shoulder for her to cry on. but please do not try to put anything in her head against her boyfriend because this may backfire and she may not like it. just show her that you are there for her no matter what. be a good friend to her. let her know of your feelings but not directly. buy her flowers or just be very very nice and loving to her and let her know that you do not mind her speaking to other guys. you have mentioned that she knows that you like her and even then if she studies at your place and stays overnight it means that she too has some feelings for you. trust me if a girl knows a certain boy likes her and she already has a boyfriend and even then if she keeps in touch with the boy who likes it means she also has some feelings for that guy. in an opposite case where the girl does not like the guy she would even stop talking to him. so be positive. you just need to get that feeling to the forefront by being nice to her. if she doesn't get the message then just politely express your feelings to her and also mention that no matter what her answer you will still remain friends and you will be there for her whenever she needs you. all the best buddy.

Answer 3

Your acting cool by doing what your doing now. Your actions are sincere and mature. Just keep this in mind that you dont want this girl to leave you for someone else. Don't take advantage of her situation.

Dont be afraid of loosing her. Just let her work out her problems with her BF. Try to be nuetral. Support her emotions. Let her have a peace of mind. You want her to make a good decision when it comes to you. So be real about things.

Dont let your feelings bother you. Its obvious you care for her. It is fine to express your feelings but dont confuse her. Let her know that she makes you happy and you want her to be happy. Tell her you can be there to help by listening and any advice she asks for. Just don't put yourself in a postion that can reflect bad. Treat her situation with her BF as if it were your own situation with her. Be honest how you would treat her as a nuetral person there to support her.

Try to look at the situation from her BF perspective. Her BF may be acting in an immature way because his afraid. It can also be neither of them discussed the boundaries or expectations in there relationship.

If she begins talking about seeing other people encourage her to end her relationship first with her BF. Its not healthy for a person to think of other people while in a committed relationship. Breaking a commitment by seeing/cheating can provoke and hurt people. So try to stay away from that scenerio. It would be best for you and her.

Answer 4

idk, man. Sounds like you're in one of those circumstances where you are gonna end up worse than you are now. Firstly, you can try bein patient and if you're really into her that much and have dreams of you and her together, hang onto her. Just be there and be a gentleman or a shoulder to cry on. Sooner or later, she's gonna budge and you'll get your reward.

But the ugly side of this story is that you're gonna end up just like that boyfriend cuz if she can do it to him, she can do it to you too. And besides, it wont be forever that you'll have this situation where it looks like the boyfriend is the asshole and you are the knight in shining armor. Life is gonna move and you'll have to do things like NS or go to uni and both you and her will meet more people and she will just realize that you are not the most beautiful guy in the world, and trust me, its a very f u c k ed up situation cuz u thought you've sacrificed everything for that one girl (and u start failing ur alevels and **** like that cuz u skip classes just to stalk on her) and your dreams are just washed away in the drain.

So just walk away lah.

Answer 5

You are both too immature and irresponsible to be in a relationship obviously. You don't know what it takes and should stick to your education. Put yourself on her bf's side. I really doubt you would be okay with it if she was doing this to you, and even more upset if another guy was tyring to move in on your girl. What goes around, comes around. One day you will see what its like to be in the hotseat and then maybe, next time you'll think about trying something as selfish as what you are doing now.

Answer 6

I think your are addicted to the drama. Do you really want a woman in your life who might drop you for someone else?
I believe you focus on what you can't have. Do some deep soul searching and spend your energy on positive things. If in time she becomes single again, then if you still like her, take a shot at it. Until then.......get a life. Maybe work on not hyperfocusing.

Answer 7

Okay if you get with her and you do start going out, which is messed up to begin with, what makes you think another guy wouldn't be able to take her away from you? There's over 3 billion other women on the planet, plenty of them are available and meet your criteria. just move on and don't even think about it.It's so much less drama you'll love it! Plus that's disrespectful to that guy she's going out with.

Answer 8

Love is patient. Love is kind...Paul admonishes us to know the real meaning of love as recorded in 1 Corinthians 13. I guess you are really in love with her but I guess you need to keep on praying about this because only God knows. Love takes time. Just be patient. Keep your eyes on her while respecting her boyfriend as well...Who knows in the end you will have her 100% in your arms?

Answer 9

I'm sorry to say but you need to leave her along, she has a boy
friend. and it really not fair to you or her to be chasing after her
if she want to be with you honestly, she would give up the boy
friend. you need to find someone that going to love and respect
you in the way you should be. good to be her friend, but you really
need to think seriously about this if she really care about you
then why would she play with your feeling. when she know how
you feel.

Answer 10

if her bf is treating her like that u have to stay there because it is not going to go on for long. she is gonna be going out with u thenher bf is gonna ask wat u two did and she is gonna get sick of it soon then she is gonna leave him so i am telling u to stay aroulnd and let ur heart come out to her so u have to tell her that u feel this way about her and that she is the only person that makes i feel this way.