My girlfriend is getting married and would like her 3 children ages 8, 5, and 1 (all boys) to participate in the wedding ceremony, maybe even have vows or say vows to them. Any thoughts on how to incorporate them other than the typical ringbearer?
2006-06-06 01:51:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For my sister's second marriage, she had her 2 sons walk her down the aisle and then stand with her. During the ring exchange, she and her husband gave them each an engraved crystal. The vows for her husband included something about his responsibilities being a step-father to her children. She should talk to her pastor/officiant about how to include them in the ceremony.
2006-06-06 03:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Blue 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm having a few of the younger cousins (ages 6 and under) give out the programs at the front of the church when people come in. They seem really excited that they have something to do at the ceremony! Let's them feel important with out having to have them be the typical ringbearers, etc.
2006-06-06 06:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by loloshorty9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the 8 year old could be the best man. You could have the other two light the tapers beside the unity candle.
During the vows, I think it would be neat to have vows for the boys included. Saying something where the husband dedicates to love the boys ect.
Tell her congratulations on the upcoming wedding!
2006-06-06 04:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After your vows, why not add vows for the children that say something like: "I, John Doe, take the three of you to be my family. I promise to care for you, to treat you always as my child, to support you, to be there for you, etc, etc, etc"
I wouldn't say "I promise to be your father" if their father is a part of their life. That might offend someone, and the reality of that situation is that they have a father.
Then the boys could say, "We take you John Doe to be part of our family. We promise to care for you, etc, etc, etc."
Then maybe give each of the children something special, just as you give your bride a ring. Maybe you could give them a wrapped box containing the gift that they could open later. You don't want them playing with the present while you're still at the altar!
There's some story in the "Everything I know I learned in kindergarten" book about a wedding where the children participated. (Or in another book by the same author) Maybe you could find the books in the library in order to read the story.
2006-06-06 07:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married, I had several nephews and nieces (ranging ages) to consider what to have them do. 13 to be exact. What I did, was consider all the little jobs that had to be done as well as some other possibilities. Yes, the youngest could be the ring bearer. The 8 year old could be a Junior Groomsmen. The 5 year old could help pass out bird seed pouches to the guests as they leave to throw at you and your husband. Anything is possible.
As far as them saying vows, this is something sacred between the bride and groom and it should be kept that way.
Good luck to your friend......
2006-06-06 02:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by teashy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 10:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys can throw flowers!
Or, the older one can be a part of the ceremony, stand with her...there's so many things boys can do. The one year old, I don't know. He can just be cute and be in the pictures... it is difficult for a little boy like that to behave in any situation.
For the five year old, he can recite some short poetry, something very simple he can memorize. I remember when I was that age and I learned a verse of the Bible. Maybe he can sing "Jesus Loves Me," to the audience... anyway, you have to see the strengths in those boys.
2006-06-06 01:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by NIshzhoni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember a wedding where a little boy pulled his little brother down the aisle in a decorated wagon. Everyone was saying how cute it was. Maybe she could do something like that? The 8-year-old could pull the five year old who holds the one year old in his lap.
2006-06-06 01:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by stevie ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could each have vows said to them and givena gift like a special ring to resemble the family as one.
2006-06-06 01:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by tmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can have the boys walk there grandmother down the isle or other family members. She can even have her boys help walk her down the isle.
2006-06-07 15:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by Beastly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋