Is he a loser boyfriend??

Question

my bf and i have a kid toghether and he works and takes good care of her and we live together well recently my car broke and is unrepairable and all i hear are ampty promises to fix the problem for now he takes me to and from work well the opputunity arose to all me to take the car and leave him home and i would return from work in time for him to take the car to work with him as well. well he threw a fit and we dont have enough money for a second car payment and nor do we really haev any money to save up to get a second car well in no uncertain terms i have less bills then he does and i have more dispensable income then he does but anytime we buy anything extra its always something for him of the baby and im basically screwed im am expected to help pay all these bills and have nothing to show for it what should i do im fed up please someone help.

Answer 1

It's clear you cannot afford a new car and your boyfriend is doing everything he possibly can to support you and also take you to work. It's also clear that at some point your boyfriend is selfish and you're also selfish. Maybe work out your problems and sometimes it helps to compromise. I think it's unfair that you end up paying for things he bought for himself. Your boyfriend sounds selfish. As they say it takes one to know one.

Answer 2

Hey let not the financial prob comin ur way.it happens all the time wit ppl who establish their life without stable income.You should hav thought of it before u start living wit him and hav a kid.but since no point talking bout it now so i think just be patient for some time till ur financial status improve for both u guys.Its for the kids sake too.About buying something for him well u guys can forget wht u WANT and try to get wht u NEED first.save up money in any possible way so u can use it later if ther s emergency.

This is something which u guys hav to sit calmly and talk together wht can be done.List out budget and income for the month and spend accordingly.gud luck

Answer 3

This sounds like the eternal what happens when two get together and move too fast, before proper plans are made. You both sound young with not the means to take care of things that need to be taken care of. First thing is to take a deep breath, stop fighting, and start listening to each other. Start considering each others feelings before speaking/thinking wrongly of each other.

Answer 4

You guys definitely need to talk. Does this car belong to one of you or both? Stop buying for him. Let him buy for the baby. Hunt for a deal and move on. If he has a problem, let him talk it out or get over it.

Answer 5

these things happen, your in a partnership with someone,listen to what he is saying and think about it, he maybe trying to make a point, it seems to me that all he is trying to do is to teach you how to save for a rainy day, if he wont/cant fix the car, catch a bus.

Answer 6

well, you should be grateful that he is helping proivde for your child. i don't think he's a loser, and if you can't afford a car payment, then you have to make some sacrifices. wouldn't you rather buy things for your baby then yourself? there's always public transportation.

Answer 7

any real man would want his mate to have the vehicle,especially since there is a child in the house and you never know when an emergency will arise

Answer 8

did you tell him you were taking the car if no then he had the right to throw the fit but even though you are exspected to help out you should have alittle something for yourself to show for it

Answer 9

Is there the insurance of the car? You should be quiet and think and then you will get the answer.

Answer 10

all of us go thru this... sounds like he would LIKE to get you a car, but you all cant afford it... save your money, try not to feel bad or make him feel bad...