What would be more beneficial for you at this point in your life....I have a "friend with benefits", but want to take it to another level...he said he doesnt see me like that..& what's to keep it the way it is for now....what is your opinion....I am happy with the way things are, but I am also looking for a relationship...not Marriage, but something more meaningful.
2006-06-06 00:17:55 · 6 answers · asked by mysticfairy74 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oops...I meant "wants"....not what's to keep it that way....lol
2006-06-06 00:20:13 · update #1
you are being used and he has convinced you that thats ok!
i did the friends with benefits thing and it NEVER works. you just end up wanting something you can't have and he just gets what he's wanted all along 'no strings sex'.
i would stop this right now, your only gonna get hurt. you know what you want so go and get it. don't fool yourself into thinking you'll get it from him.
if you are totally fine with the way things are, then go right ahead. personally, i am a relationship kind of girl, all or nothing with me!
2006-06-06 00:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jan 6 · 14⤊ 3⤋
Why do girls do this crap? The old"why buy the cow if you get the milk for free," saying just dripped right out huh? Guys don't like relationships/being tied down beyond the comfort & security they provide. If you're providing him BOTH benefits AND comfort/security then what the hell motivation does he have to put forth any effort? Why would you sleep with someone under those circumstances in the first place.
You told him you wanted more, now you need to cut it back, then cut it off. Either he'll respond to you or he'll respond his *** away from you & on to someone else so you can get on to a decent guy that'll treat you right & care about you instead of just what you hand him for w/o any effort.
2006-06-06 07:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by djack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had bumpy relationships at first, but I've come to terms on"friends with benefits" because, it's still a friendship to the point that with I do some thing with her, It is mutual. In a relationship there tends to be disagreements, and with it's quits we both dwell on it, with our f.w.b's , it stays mutual, all you need is time for one another to cool off! Enjoy!
2006-06-06 07:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are looking for something more meaningful, you should persue it. if the guy only wants it the way it is, he isnt going to change unless he has to. there is something very special about being with someone that you care for and he cares for you. Sex is more meaningful when you are in that kind of relationship.
2006-06-06 07:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by smiths j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's enjoying his benefits - don't be surprised if he has a girlfriend tomorrow, at which point he won't need your benefits. Unless you're using him just as much as he's using you, put a stop to it and find someone real
2006-06-06 07:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use him and when you have a real man Lose him!
2006-06-06 07:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by RICARDO M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋