I am a hardworking single Mom....I have 2 kids.....a son who is 8 & a daughter who is almost 7 (the 14th of this mo.)........I have 2 full time jobs, a car, a house & my cousin with her 4 kids live with me....although she is not part of this question.....lol.....I just find that alot of guys I have been meeting lately are intimated by this for some reason....is it because it overshadows their "knight in shining armor" attitude or is because I am making it..to a point...in a so called "man's world"?
2006-06-05 22:40:45 · 11 answers · asked by mysticfairy74 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didnt say ALL men...I said ALOT of men...alot of the ones I am meeting....I have gotten rid of most of my baggage...except my kids....
2006-06-05 22:53:36 · update #1
ok...I am NOT bitter towards men either...I was using cliches.....I am just trying to figure this out...I had a male friend of mine tell me that the reason I am having trouble finding a man is because I am intimidating to them....I dont know...I was just asking a question...not trying to cause an uprising...lol...My cousin is Married, but her Husband lives/works in Washington...she is supposed to be moving back there in a few weeks...so she will be out of the equation soon
2006-06-05 23:31:51 · update #2
It sounds as though your focus is way off, & possibly because you don't want to acknowledge the real reason. A lot of single guys look at a woman with 2 kids as having too much baggage, & they would prefer a woman who hasn't already got her life so set in stone as you do. Add in the 2 jobs & they don't see you as someone who would ever have much time to devote to them. Then there's the cousin with 4 kids, which would be enough to make most men run from this situation fast, because they would know the only way they could get any private time with you would be at their place.
I think a lot of us single men would appreciate a woman who was willing to work & make something of herself. However, the bulk of single men will see your past as a detriment to any chance of a serious relationship with you because they won't want to play the stepfather role. They have worked too hard to get where they are in life to want to take on the responsibilities of a ready-made family. As for single dads, they may feel their hands are full with their own children. Finally, all guys are going to look at the situation you have with your cousin as you essentially living in a zoo, what with 6 kids running all over the place. She is part of the equation, because you will be judged by the company you keep, & they will wonder why you two have what they would view as such a screwed up life.
Your attitude may also scare off potential suitors. In your effort to make it without the aid of a man, you seem to have a prejudice against men which we can pick up on easily. Most men don't like feminists, & when you accuse them of being intimidated by your life, & use phrases like "'knight in shining armor' attitude" & "man's world", your hostility towards men bleeds through all too clearly. It is good you have achieved what you have, but your bitter feelings towards men would be the last excuse any man would need to turn tail & get away from you as quickly as he could. You'll need to work on seriously adjusting this aspect of your attitude if you ever wish to have a successful relationship with a man in the future, & counseling may be beneficial in this regard. Good luck, & I hope you can get your issues in order so you can find the happiness you desire.
2006-06-05 22:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 5⤋
some men are intimidated by strong women no matter what. and thos who aren't are probably a bit in a difficult situation because you have two kids and that is a lot of responsability for them to take if they go out with you....
2006-06-05 22:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by 42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't intimidate men, you have no time for one. That's an cop-out. Men aren't intimidated by women, We just don't need the baggage some of you bring with you.
2006-06-05 22:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1it is not all men,i married a single woman with three kids,and we get along fine,we are still madly in love 18 years later
2006-06-05 22:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by B.N.P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that u have kids will make them feel that they will be put last and some men dont like being responsible especially for kids that r not theirs
2006-06-05 22:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by cassie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's because they know getting involved with a single mother means they will always come last.
2006-06-05 22:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by BobTheBizGuru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good on you. I imagine it isnt simple for a single mum to be coping as well as you do. Thats probably what intimidates them or least expect it.
2006-06-05 22:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by ari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a lion takes over a pride....... he eats the young of the last male.
2006-06-05 22:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by bogart_that 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't want to have to compete with your past..
2006-06-05 22:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by LokoLobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound like you got much time for lovin
2006-06-05 22:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋