I'v been with my partner for 4years and were going to the carribbeans to celebrate our anniversary and i feel its the right time to have sex, but im scared as to how much it will hurt and how much i will bleed because i dont wanna spoil my holiday at the same time. I love him and i know he is the one.
2006-06-05 22:17:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as long as there is plenty of 4play it wont hurt a lot of ppl dnt bleed i didnt and if you do it probly wont be a lot just a small amount. enjoy ur holiday ect...
2006-06-05 23:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by wetnslippy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before you go all the way with penis-in-vagina sex it is worth playing around with all other variations of hands and mouths and private parts. The actual penetration bit is only one small part of a larger experience. You need to be relaxed and turned on though. If you are tense or nervous it might hurt and that is the wrong way to do it.
If you get used to the way your body works and what feels good with your hands and your partner's hands before you go all the way you won't have any pain and you will feel comfortable and relaxed and will have a great time.
Sex really isn't such a big deal, it is important, but don't build it up too much. It takes a long time to become skilled and you will need to work with your partner and practice and learn what you like for several months before things will be great for both of you.
I hope this helps and that you have a wonderful time.
By the way the woman who said you would be sore for 3 days is not right. If you are really turned on and relaxed nothing hurts and it will be better by the next morning in any case.
PS You need to learn to give yourself an orgasm before you can teach your partner to do it.
2006-06-06 05:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by SmartBlonde 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are scared, why do it now? To please your partner? That's a bad call. If you do it to please somebody, you are not ready. I think you should experiment with many other things before you try intercourse. Also, the pain and bleeding is different for all women. Some barely feel it, and some have a lot of pain. You also must know, that you won't be able to do it for the next 3 days or so afterwards, so you can heal. I don't think I'd want to be stuck somewhere away from home on a beach with a sore woo-woo...
2006-06-05 22:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been together 4 years and not had sex yet?! wow, well just take your time and enjoy each other, it will happen when the moment is right, it will hurt but the pain is short and over in seconds, you'll wonder what all the fuss was about afterwards
2006-06-05 22:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by lizarddd 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey,i think is a problem u got to face. my dear every women face it.there will be pains but n't too much and bleeding,some women have a lot bleeding and some have a small bleeding at the first time ok but be sure u willn't loose to the wrong man ok bye and takr it cool.
2006-06-05 22:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by SHATY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP! If you waited this long then you can wait longer. just play with each other and get off that way. Because this is what sex IS and the love that goes with it.
2006-06-05 22:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry use a lubricant it will ease the pain. it hurts for first few mins you wont die. after that you.ll wonder what you were scared of. good luck and enjoy your holiday
2006-06-05 22:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why r u worried,if u have decided go for it ,ofcourse it will hurt initially untill hymen breaks,but after that it will be ok,ask ur partner to start slowly ,keep no thoughts in ur mind & enjoy..
best of luck
2006-06-05 22:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by abhi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take plenty of lubricant and RELAX!!! Maybe get some alcohol inside you first, to relax... The more you worry and tense up, the more it might hurt...
ENJOY YOURSELF!!
2006-06-05 23:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is very patient huh? it doesn't hurt that much and the bleeding is a few drops.don't worry much and if you are ready go for it
2006-06-05 23:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by chance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋