is a never-jealous boyfriend normal? is it not a sign of his overconfidence?

Question

i think a little jealousy every now and then is alright and is a good sign of a healthy relationship. but what is your boyfriend never gets jealous over any man? can it give a hint of his overconfidence that he is not gonna ba cheated and he can find somebody else if i dump him?(which i'm not going to do!). Or can it be that he also gets jealous but holds it back just to put me in my place and not to be so secure about myself?

do i really make him that happy and worthy of his trust? or he just doesn't care at all? help!

Answer 1

Jealousy is usually a sign of insecurity, apparently you're boyfriend doesn't suffer from it. Be glad, because there's an old Chinese proverb that says;
" Those who mistrust most, should be trusted least"

Answer 2

Jealousy is never a good thing. You do not need to make your boyfriend jealous just so that he can prove how much he cares for you. That's a very immature attitude, and also potentially dangerous. In a bid to make your man jealous, he might just decide to up and leave your cheating a$$ instead. Do you want to risk that? Didn't think so!

Instead of wondering why your man never seems to get jealous, why not wonder how you can make him happy? How you and he can get closer together? How you can ensure that you prove worthy of his apparent trust in you? Because, believe me, one day if you're not careful, you will run this fellow off, and a guy will come into your life who IS jealous of any move you make towards another guy...and by the time he pulls an OJ Simpson on your a$$, you will wish for your old, non-jealous boyfriend back!

Take care of yourself!

Answer 3

So You Like your guys a bit on the rough side with a fiery temperement jealousy aroused by the first sign of any communication towards a fellow human-being well, then,Its quite normal for you to be thinking why is he so cold, and uncaring or is he just smug,because you can´t quite figure him out.Whats behind this charade,what is he thinking?You should try to engage him in a conversation about jealousy in a suble way,like story telling, to find out how he feels about it. I also think a little jealousy is healthy sign.But something tells me this guy is just not the jealous type and theres nothing you can do to make him so.Maybe hes not your type.On the other hand ,maybe hes the type who is entertaining some thoughts about having a menage-a-trois or something kinky,joining the swingers club so he is not ready to mention his fantasies but he doe try to prove to you that he is not jealous and can tolerate some degree of sharing.If you pass a subltle hint about these ideas I mentioned you may be able to get him to open up and talk to you about how he feels.Maybe you haven´t done anything to make him feel jelous so he is controling himself until in the event that such an incident should arise.There are so many possible reasons.
Maybe if you think about it ,whats stopping you from asking him directly how come you´re not jealous when.......blah blah blah.... Maybe he is quiet,sensitive,tender and caring and he loves you so..,he does not want to say or do anything to upset you.Maybe he is a sly guy, a wolf in sheeps clothing,having an affair on the other side and acting like an angel at home.....posibilities are endless.....Thanks for asking my opinion because.......I love talking....blah...blah...blah...

Answer 4

It's funny because if a guy acts jealous, it doesn't look good and he seems not confident in that love. If he plays it cool, he looks uncaring and overconfident. I guess only you would really know because he is your bf and you would know his heart better than anyone here on answers.

He might be just confident (nothing wrong) because he has full trust in you. He doesn't feel that showing jealousy is needed because in the end, he loves you and you love him.

It also could be that he does get jealous but doesn't wish to show too much emotion? I doubt that he doesn't get jealous, but perhaps hides it well.

The worst is that he doesn't care what happens in the relationship and that's why he behaves like this. I doubt it, though.

Ask him upfront why he doesn't get jealous and you will get your true response :)

Answer 5

it's not all you necessarily..it could just be in his nature not to be jealous. maybe he's just an easy going guy.

when i met my hubby he was the most laid back guy in the world. just like you describe, he too would NEVER get jealous. i'd be out with my ex who is a well-known model, and he'd just say 'have fun' and chill out on his own or with his friends. i-like you-thought it was just way too odd, i mean which guy does that? i pulled some little tricks to see if he'd get jealous [never cheated on him though] and now...his jealous streak has kicked in and he even interferes in my business meetings. if he knows im going to be with a man alone in a meeting, he flips and lists me six reasons why i shouldnt do it. it drives me nuts. i poked it, so i live with it...but you can learn from this experience. ENJOY

Answer 6

if he really isn't jealous, it means you've put him on such a high pedestal that he doesn't need to be worried at all. you've given him a strong security blanket, so the other guys interfering really don't bother him - he knows you're too into him to even think of someone else.

it's a good thing coz it shows he trusts you, but please be wary - this can easily lead into him taking you for granted. shake him up a bit, very very quickly. or else you'll just end up being a piece of jewelry, not his girlfriend.

Answer 7

i cant answer your question fully..
all i can say is.. my husband doesnt show any jealousy what so ever..
everyonce is a while if he notices a guy looking at me while were walking.. he'll put his arm around me.. kinda showing that i'm his.
he says that he does get jealous.. but i just dont see it.
everyone gets jealous no matter what they say.
he prolly just doesnt want to show you that side yet.
but i think that if you look close enough he'll show it in another way than just saying something. like grabbing your hand or putting his arm around you.
something like that

Answer 8

you know girl.i also wanted to ask this question a long time ago.my boyfriend is the same,someone told me that maybe i don,t make him happy and then i decided i,ll do the same.make like i don,t care and i,ll tell him just do whatever,whenever and only now i can see that he,s starting to worry.i told him i don,t wait for no man

Answer 9

Let's hope he's secure in himself and also trusts you to the point where he believes that other guys are not a threat. Wouldn't that be nice?

Answer 10

it depends on how long u guys have been together. if years, then its ok if he doesnt get jealous or show his jealousy, but if weeks or months, maybe he's holding back & yes, confident that he can easily replace you.