since we first met we have always had a right laugh together. i think about him alot but he has moved away we still speak every now and then but we always said we couldnt be together cause we r so much alike, we both like our freedom and it was just meant to be fun with no strings attached as time has gone on i have really fallen for him and don't know weather i should tell him or just carry on beating myself everytime he goes! normally i'm a strong person who dosen't let men get under my skin but he is different my problem is i don't wanna come out and tell him how i feel incase he dosent feel the same and i never see him again!
2006-06-05 21:01:35 · 11 answers · asked by blondebirdcrazy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can do one of two things, follow your heart and let him know how you feel, or don't say anything and allow things to continue the way they are. I mean how would you know if he feels the same way? Maybe he is beating himself up over the fact that yall agreed to be friends and he doesn't know how you would react when he says he wants more? Who knows? Try suggesting it indirectly see how he reacts....that way you will know what you are up against.
Good luck!
2006-06-05 21:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just from listening to you, it sounds like you really like this guy. You don't want to end your relationship with him, even if it is only at the friend status right now.
Telling or showing someone that you like him/her is really tough because you not only have to deal with expressing your deep, hidden, and sometimes uncontrollable emotions, but you also face the risk that he/she won't reciprocate.
Just know this, you need to give it a chance, and be willing to roll with the consequences. A decision must be made, and inaction often is the decision people choose. Make your intentions known, give it a little time, wait to see how he responds, and then you will either be resolved that it really won't work out, or you will chatting hours on the phone. In both cases, you will feel proud of yourself for doing something you were scared to do.
2006-06-05 21:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by D H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself think , that if he just talks to you every now and then---> that he must not feel the same way that you do. I hate to say it , but i have been in your situation more times than i would like to admit . What if he just comes to you every time he can't find anyone else to be with ? What if you will always be his go to girl , only when there is no one else to go to ?
Maybe you should try looking deeply into his eyes with real emotion , and saying can't you just stay with me a little while longer .If he says no , leave it alone. Be glad that you have him sometimes , it is better maybe than not being able to have him at all. He might just not be ready , for what you are wanting. I myself think , that usually if you stand back , and really look at things---> you can figure it out for yourself.
2006-06-05 21:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by listenup_yall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a chance you have got to let him know how u feel.If you dont you keep on suffering.You have nothing to lose,in the end this is the best way out.Staying quiet about this will leave you wasted .Better you tell him then you get to move along with life instead of staying on hold.He may also like you a lot and is equally scared of speaking.Take a chance.
2006-06-05 21:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by pinkpanther 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance! It is obvious that it is tearing you up right now. Give it a try and see how it works out. If it goes well then you will have a great relationship, if not you will be able to get on with your life.
2006-06-05 21:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by Gregie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to sit down & really think about this......
Friends turn into lovers & vice versa...
You dont want to lose his friendship? So when you have thought it through talk to him about it.......Then decide where you want to go with this...
He may feel he doesn't like you in that way but he might just say deep down he feels it too.
But dont beat yourself up about it...we are only human & as such we feel genuine emotion...If he doesn't feel the same way you may have to choose to see less of him...It will hurt I know but at least you really know how he feels & you can move on with your life.
Good luck
2006-06-05 21:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by skippy's mum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy the time you spend with him... Remember those fun times, when he ain't there...
Take pictures and remember... Don't feel down...
If you tell him, you might lose everything... Keep it bottled up for now and see how things develop...
2006-06-05 21:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave and take a chance.
We only regret in life the things we didn't do, so go for it.
If it doesn't work, at least you know you tried!
2006-06-05 22:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by London girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come out with it and be open about your feelings - he probably feels the same - you have nothing to lose.
2006-06-05 21:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by jameshens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him and tell him u love him and wana be with him...actually, tell him exactly what u just wrote. if he rejects u, then hes not worth it cuz it means he prefers his freedom than u. hope this helps!
2006-06-05 21:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Ariana*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋