When is it a good idea to put your daughter on birth control & how do u tell your parents?

Question

Im a 17y/o female and have recently got involed in a relationship, and things are gettin serious. and i wanted know if it would be a good idea to be on birth control before your were actually having sex( just as a precaution) and how would i tell my mother that i would like to be on birth control, without them thinking it was more???? any suggestions would be greatly appericated...

Answer 1

If you're even thinking of the possibility of having sex, now is the time to get on birth control. All you do is tell the parent you're closest to, the ones you've had the more serious talks with. Let them know you aren't sexually active yet, but you want to take the high road and be prepared for when you do decide to have sex. It'll show you're being responsible, and let them know that you are in fact ready for sex. Most kids blow off the talk with their parents, and take the childish side of it. You're taking a responsible approach, and I respect that, I hope my kids are this responsible when they're your age. If you give it to your parents straight up, assure them you're not sexually active yet, and want to be ready in case you do become active. Approach them like an adult and they'll treat you like an adult. Look into family planning in your area, and let your parents know you've looked into it, and you do know what you're getting into. Your parents will respect your wishes that much more if you show them you're prepared, and ready to make your own choices.

Answer 2

First of all well done for taking precautions!!

The pill is not 100% full proof. You can still get pregnant whilst taking it, especially if you have had a cold or the flu. It can make the tablet useless. You can still get STDs using the pill, so you will also need to ensure your partner wears a condom. No contraceptive is 100% safe.

Ok lecture over with.................... how to tell your mother??

At 17, although legal, you are still very young. If you are ready to have a sexual relationship with your partner then the best thing to do is to just be open and honest with your mum. Tell her how you feel first and ask her for advice. This always works better than saying "mum I want to go on the pill"
At 17 I don't believe you have to have your parents pemission obtain the pill. so you are not really asking permission, you are just informing her that you intend going on it.
She should be proud of you for thinking about taking precations however listen to her advice. Mothers are very wise, they have been there, done that and most are still wearing the t-shirt!!
Be open and honest with her. She may not like the idea but I don't think she can stop you.

Answer 3

At one time in my life I would never have been saying this. You can survive pregnancy but you can't survive aids. If there is any chance you think you might engage in sexual activity protect yourself. Make sure your partner wears a condom, NO EXCEPTIONS! Don't listen to the I can't get you pregnant etc. excuses.No matter what you do you live with the consequences of your actions.Love yourself enough to protect yourself.I don't know what to say about telling your mom. Did you and your mother ever have any conversations about sex and birth control?If so take your lead from that .

Answer 4

I don't think you don't need their permission since you are almost 18. you can just go to a clinic that does birth control and they would do all the test necessary. plus most of the time it's free and confidential. But first check if no parental permission needed. If you are unable to do it with out you parents permission then i suggest that you talk to them I'm sure they would feel that birth control it's better than you getting pregnant at such a young age.Good luck

Answer 5

explain that you are trying to be cautious and sensible about pregnancy, maybe they will accept that. Your parents are going to have to face this fact sooner or later and they should be happy you are thinking ahead and being sensible.We all talked a lot to my grandaughter about staying a virgin and for some reason unknown to man my son, as we were dishing up christmas dinner, asked her if she was still a virgin. Her answer "No, Dad" pretty much ruined dinner for us. But, we laugh about it now. You have to tell them sooner or later and better to say Mom, I want to be prepared than Mom, I"m pregnant. Good luck with this - I hope it goes well.

Answer 6

congrats on still being a virgin u are an awesome girl

ur 17 come on just bluntly tell them ur getting serious with sumone and are thinking about having sex and u would like to be protected with condoms and birthcontrol...

trust me they will help u

ur almost 18... if u talk to them that will show them how mature u are..

Answer 7

well you are 17 years old and you can (yourself) go to a clinic or health deptpartment were it is free and get on birth control yourself without no one knowing.

when i was 16 i decided i was going to have sex so i made my own appointment and told my mom i was getting on birth control and she was glad i wasn't stupid and end up pregnant.

i went on my own. got the shot on my own.
if you know you are going to have sex i wouldn't wait around asking i would go myself.

good luck

Answer 8

Go to plan parent hood. I think they still hook you up. But they might need parent approval but worth checking out. As a mom I would want you to come talk to me about it. You might be surprised by what she says. Or she might freak out. You can also go by the mom what if thing to. Tell her mom what if me and my boyfriend start getting serious. See what she says.

Answer 9

You are 17 and still a virgin! congratulations! you are old enough to not have to tell them.but if you must, tell them its for cramping and irregularities.