A friend (who we're not that close to) mentioned her daughter's christening in conversation, then perhaps realising she hadn't invited us, hastily did so (suggesting the original invite got lost). We already said we're free on that day (so can't really say we've got plans), but don't really fancy going (as we don't know any of the other 120 guests).
2006-06-05 20:42:57 · 22 answers · asked by jquittenton2 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No matter how your invitation came about, it would be courteous to go and attend - it shows the generosity of your character. By showing up, it means you have not harbored any ill feelings (even if you have) towards your friend whom i'm quite positive would be delighted to see you and your spouse. Go enjoy the christening, never mind the crowd - it's an auspicious thing - you can help make it a happy one for your friend.
2006-06-05 20:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you havent yet commited yourself to the christening then just tell your friend that you cant go, (do not offer an explanation unless she ask, just tell her you cant go) If she asks why then tell her the in-laws decided to drop by or something
If you said you would come then use the excuse listed above and add that because you all did not know them that well or any of the other guest than you didnt feel comfortable in bringing people that were not invited.
2006-06-06 03:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by crystal w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invitations don't get lost in the mail. She probably was embarrassed that she didn't invite you. Don't feel the need to go, well since you really weren't invited anyways. You don't have to send money or any other presents either. Just let the situation pass. You don't owe her an explanation.If she ask later why you didn't show up, say you got "lost"
2006-06-06 17:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the chruch for the christening and then skip the rest of the stuff with a last second excuse.....at least it shows that you made the effort. Life is about networking, and you never know who will be able to come to your aid in the future. You don tneed to know anybody there...its more of a respect thing. Would you go to that persons parents funeral???? If so....go to the christening....its just as important.
2006-06-06 03:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by DREAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This just sounds like everyone is being "nice". Just ring up and say that you are sorry but you will not be able to make it (you don't have to explain why). Hate to tell you this, but they probably didn't want you there in the first place if you weren't invited so they probably won't care if you can't make it. Sorry but I had to be honest.
PS - if they can't invite you properly, I would not be buying a gift.
2006-06-06 07:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Leigh S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously didn't really want you there in the first place, merely asked you out of obligation. I would suggest a mystery illness the night before. I would still get a present and card for their daughter though. It's polite.
2006-06-06 04:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by Dare You To Dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't show no love lost...just do what your most comfortable with...if she wasn't going to invite 'everyone' she should have been woman enough to mention without having to feel an invite was needed.
2006-06-06 03:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by rachellynn200 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not have to go. The indication was that written invitations were sent. You did not receive one, so you are off the hook.
If it makes you feel better, send a small gift.
2006-06-06 14:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by vettebon76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest listening to the song 'should I stay or should I go' by the Clash - this should help you make up your mind . Pay close attention to the line 'If I stay there will be trouble but If I go It will be double' - there is a clue in this .
2006-06-06 03:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by clintwestwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just send a nice gift. Nothing expensive maybe a rosary or a card with a $5.00 gift certificate to Target or McDonald's. I would not spend more than that.
2006-06-06 05:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Mac 4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋