My fiancee and I are getting married in the USA next year, he is american, I am from new zealand, and we live in new zealand. We will be travelling back to the USA to get married in his hometown...My problem is that receiving gifts will be very difficult to transport back to new zealand, and that money would be a better solution, as then we could buy things for our home once we returned home. How do we ask for money without coming across as greedy and ungrateful?
2006-06-05 20:30:02 · 13 answers · asked by mandy n 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For those that don't realise, New zealand is over 12000 miles from usa, and the cost of shipping a gift is often more than the cost of the gift itself ie 5lbs is $77
2006-06-06 10:41:23 · update #1
DO NOT put anything of the sort in your invitation. Let it spread by word of mouth and your families that you would prefer money, as travelling with the gifts will be difficult. If you have registered on a website, you can have people order gifts and have them shipped to your preferred address. Despite your good intentions, just let the grapevine work, and it will.
2006-06-05 21:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Aemilia753 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Fugaz is so very very wrong it is far from socially acceptable to ask for cash - depending on how long ya'll are gonna be in the states before the wedding maybe you put an insert in the invitation to the affect that it might be nice to send the gifts to your NZ address so as to avoid paying extra at the airport to take it home. Thay should get the idea and give up the moolah.
2006-06-06 17:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is common nowadays and is socially acceptable.
All of your guest should be informed of your choice by word-of-mouth, it would be distasteful to put in on paper. On the reception you can put a mailbox or a box for your wedding monetary offerings. Wedding shops also sell bride-purses to keep with you during the reception and people should approach you with their gifts, or you can make an annouced part of your reception so both of you can go table to table greeting the guests and receiving their gifts. Youcan make it fun with a money dance, so you can stop feeling greedy, everybody would dance with you and the groom and give you the gift in the process.
Good luck and congratulations!
2006-06-06 05:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A subtle (and perhaps a little evil) way of doing this is to not register for much. Go to a dept. store and register for a few items, but not too many. Once these are all bought up your guests will have no choice but to give money instead. Another option, perhaps less evil, is to open a bank account and ask people to contribute towards this instead (talk to your local bank about setting up an account like this. I know that you can set up something similar for a house mortgage or your honeymoon). In invites for your bridal shower you could simply write: Bride & Groom are registered through
2006-06-06 13:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by weezerluva2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Manners (and every common sense rule of etiquette) say that you can't. There are some people (i.e. my grandma) who will always buy a gift, they hate the thought of giving money.
About the gifts with travelling thing...most guests will know that and will most likely send them to your home address early. You will need to ship the rest.
2006-06-06 05:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by melmo33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You shouldn't go into a reception with the intention of getting gifts, that is an option and if they know the circumstances, they can probably figure it out on their own that you would have to transport it all.
2006-06-06 00:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to them about the transport thing, if they don't understand that then tell them about how having money will allow you to buy things for your house. They are practical and valid reasons, no one should be bothered by it and if they are just tell them it's your wedding and that you should be able to get what you want? lol.
2006-06-05 22:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by rockchick130289 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i once read something like that on a wedding invitation, there is a line there that says, " if you think we deserve a gift from you, may it be in the form of cash so you can help us build our dream house".
2006-06-05 20:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by magina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the people around you that you can not carry gifts with you and do not accept any gift, when someone insist, let them know that you can accept mony as its easy to carry with.
2006-06-05 20:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by OrangeApple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on your invites request monetary gifts to purchase your things...be honest and humble...
2006-06-05 20:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by brettbrissaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋