im 19 and recently lost a brother to suicide, everyday i think about suicide, im at the point where im thinking how i should do it. what i want to know is why does it run through the family????
2006-06-05 20:28:04 · 19 answers · asked by war dog b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Real happiness and peace can be ONLY found in submitting to the commands of the Creator and the Sustainer of this world. God has said in the Qur’an: (Truly, in remembering God do hearts find rest.)
(Qur’an, 13:28)
On the other hand, the one who turns away from the Qur’an will have a life of hardship in this world. God has said:
(But whoever turns away from the Qur’an, he will have a hard life, and We will raise him up blind on the Day of Judgment.) (Qur’an, 20:124)
This may explain why some people commit suicide while they enjoy the material comfort money can buy. For example, look at Cat Stevens (now Yusuf Islam), formerly a famous pop singer who used to earn sometimes more than $150,000 a night. After he converted to Islam, he found true happiness and peace, which he had not found in material success.
To read the stories of people who have converted to Islam, please visit
http://www.islam-guide.com/stories
At this web page, you can read the thoughts and feelings of these people, who are from different countries and have different backgrounds and levels of education.
2006-06-07 08:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Not true, people who commit suicide is because they can handle life and they think the only way around is by taking their own life however some radical scientific studies suggest that people who commit suicide have a gene that comes out of the nothing but is is only a suggestion not a fact, so don't think that runs in the family, imagine if everything we do would run in the family we would live in a cycle and we wouldn't be able to survive or just become a better person, professional, brother, sister, parent and so on, don't believe that...
2006-06-05 20:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by Titus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the act of wanting to commit suicide definately does not run in the family!
However there may be other problems that run in the family that could make you feel you want to commit such an act. Please, before you do anything, go and see a councellor or a doctor - some kind of professional who can help diagnose any problems that may be affecting you to make you feel this way.
I am terribly sorry for your loss - my sister has attempted suicide twice, so I half understand the kind of emotions you must be going through. Just be aware that seeking help does not make you weak or selfish - I had to in order to cope with what my sister had done. It certainly has helped me to move on with my life, and that's what you need to do now. You won't ever forget your brother, but for now you need to focus on you and understand why you may be feeling the way you are, because suicide is not genetic, and only you can decide what kind of action you will take in the matter.
Please I urge you to see someone who has the expert knowledge and advice to help you overcome these feelings. Take care and stay safe.
2006-06-05 20:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by salsadip86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The actual act of suicide is not something that runs in families but different types of mental illness such as depression can run in families. I have suffered from major depression and at when i was 18/19 years old (i'm 25 now) i was on the brink of suicide, so i know exactly how you are feeling and it's a terrible thing to go through. You need to go to your local doctor and explain what has happened to your brother and that you are feeling the same way, the doctor won't judge you, it was hard for me to admit it to the doctor but once i did and got professional help it was a big relief. I hope that helps you.
2006-06-05 20:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by Ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is not that suicide runs in a family, but depression can. If you are having thoughts like this I would suggest that you talk to someone about it. Professional help would be the best since it offers confidituality, but even a close friend will help. The real trick to beating depression is talking it out with someone. It is not even to hear their thoughts on what you are saying, but just to get you to put it into words. It will help you identify and then deal with the things that are bothering you in life. Don't lets this get out of hand, and don't let your brothers actions prompt you to do the same. Suicide robs all of us of a great person, and that is not fair to you or to any of us.
2006-06-05 20:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by Gregie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, i want you to stop contemplating suicide & anything involving self harm. That won't make anything easier for anyone & i know you wouldn't want to hurt your family by doing that. Unfortunately, i'll have to say that ALL 3 year olds i've ever met are brats. They tend to be going through the spiteful & selfish phase. Your best bet could be to ignore him maybe when he acts out, he'll eventually get bored. He maybe only does it because he knows how to push your buttons & aggravate you. You might need to try making some friends who suffer from the same syndrome as you, i think then maybe you could begin to talk about your feelings & know that you're not alone at all :) I'm afraid i know little of the syndrome but i've looked on Wikipedia (i've linked the page below) & think if you were to read it & perhaps can then understand the syndrome more. You seem like a sensible & level headed person, at least you yourself have addressed your own problems & WANT to do something about it. That's pretty much the first step :) I really wish you the best of luck. & i would also urge you to communicate with your family & tell them how much you appreciate them & just wish they would understand your feelings better sometimes. :)
2016-03-26 20:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your'e suggesting it's heredatory, then logically no! But often if someone commits suicide, it will naturally have a depressing effect on other members of the family, and family members may commit suicide for the same connected reason.
You're probably down now because of your brother - But fight on, time is a good healer
2006-06-05 20:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by Perkins 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt run in the family.... so cheer up.... and commiting suicide is just the easy way out of problems that you face each day....
if you are thinking about suicide all the time, i would suggest that you go see a doctor and get early treatment to depression.... and stop thinking about it cos it is not going to help you improve the way you leave your life...
think happy thoughts and if you ever get depress, let it out either by doing sports or crying or tell it to someone close that you can trust... dont keep it within you.... you will end up feeling even worse than you already are....
2006-06-05 21:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by orangeprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, when someone does a suicide , there must be a reason of him/her doing so, which must involve family in it, the whole family will feel guilty and then find ways to decrease the feeling of guilty which possibly ruins the steadiness of a whole family
2006-06-05 20:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkling pearl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suicide is not a family trait. i dont care who tells you otherwise it is a person by person trait. so dont say that this person over here killed themselves and they are in my family so its a family trait so therefore i will end up killing myself. that is just a way of getting the blame off of yourself and trying to put it elsewhere and yes i do mean trying. the only person that is to blame for a person killing themselves is the killer. life will get better though it may get worse before it does so hold in there the sun will shine again.
2006-06-05 21:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋