What I need to know is, what is a man's take on women who have children that aren't theirs... Why is it that love is not enough sometimes for you to be in a relationship with those single mothers, but you can be involved sexually with them? And single ladies with children, where do you find the strength to deal with this nonesense, and do you believe that there are men out there who will accept a pre-made family with open and loving arms?
2006-06-05 20:03:02 · 4 answers · asked by tan29tan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its very hard to find a man that will step up to the plate and take on a "ready made family". But they are out there! When I separated from my first husband, I had two small children. The first man I got involved with, was that kind of man. I got very lucky! He loved my kids, he loved me, and he was ready to settle down to a family already in process. Our (my) two older kids, 20 years later, have almost nothing to do with their real Dad. When they need something, want advice, or depend on someone to help them out, 2nd Dad is always there, with no hesitation. We also had a child together, and I can honestly tell you, you he treats them all the same. When our (my) daughter graduated high school, she wanted to get in the airline business like her (step) Dad. (We never refer to my husband now, as a step, and our 3rd child is not my kids 1/2 brother, they made it very clear he was their whole brother.) Anyway, my husband helped her get on with the same airline he works for and they have worked together for the last 10 years. He is loved, respected, and treated like a real Dad, because he treats our ( my) kids like they are his real kids. There are more men out there, just like the man I got. Don't give up. You have to weed through the opportunities that you get involved with. As far as the sex issue,... set guidelines with these prespective dates. Make sure he meets several qualities that you are looking for in someone you want to possibly marry and join your family. If a guy has some of these qualifications, then, move on to a more intimate relationship. Just be clear, that you are looking for more than a one night stand. You are not asking for the impossible, unfortuately you may have to weed through lots of potential men, but don't give up on your goal. You deserve this, and so do your children. Talk to God, have faith, and let God help you find this special man. Just stay patient!
2006-06-05 20:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I know of two men who accept a pre-made family. And they are my brothers. Both got married to older women . and both of them didnt have any kids of their own. THey went ahead and adopted them . Those kids love my brothers alot. I'm sooo pround of them.
2006-06-06 03:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by esperanza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think there are men who accept, especially if he doesn't have or can't have children for medical reasons or others reasons.
2006-06-06 03:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by egymah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHO are you?
2006-06-06 13:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by highroller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋