Ladies why would u still want these??

Question

Todays women want and demand and get equal status as men in every field..
I am happy to see today's women doing everything a man can do and probably a lil better than man in some areas..
Then why in the God's name do they expect us men to do lot of things that were appropriate ages ago?
Like opening doors, paying the bills in restaurants, getting up when they get up, must be well settled before he can even dream of proposing, paying alimony...
I can go on and on and on and the list will never end..
Ladies dont u think things should change with times??

Answer 1

Well, it must be the company you keep...I pay half the bills in our home, we take turns paying for meals out, we have never shared a bank account for 17 years. Whom ever goes through the door first opens it, and no one gets up for anyone unless they are leaving too...

Answer 2

We are taught from day one that that's how things should be. There's always conflicting information out there, and conflicting goals etc. Not all women are like that anyway. I open doors for guys all the time, if I happen to get there first. I offer to pay or take turns paying for meals, drinks etc.

I hope it's no mystery why we want to be treated equal. It's human nature. And at times we still have to struggle or demand to be treated that way.

As far as being settled before proposing, I think it goes both ways. A woman should never marry before she has the capacity to take care of herself as well. For many reasons, one of them being the extremely high divorce rate.

As for alimony, the fact is that men have a higher earning power than women. And many many times, a woman gives up her job or gets only a part time job when kids are involved. Then she ends up having less work experience and less skills than the average man her age when she gets divorced. On top of that, if she has custody of the kids, she also has to pay child care costs and her cost of living is higher just for having the kids. The courts look at all these factors. They don't just blindly give out alimony and child support. Many fathers these days are being awarded custody of the kids. I know several personally that have full custody, and should. So yes, things are slowly but surely changing in the right directions.

Answer 3

Ok, perhaps you have point there. Since these modern day women want to be so damn independent then get the door for yourself, pay the bills, and by the tickets for the next movie! Hell you got it all together anyway. More power to you, as they say! Now on a gentler side. I'm an old fashioner, and I want my man to feel needed and wanted, so I step back and let him be all those things that I know I can be, but it's by choice for me not to be. Now I know a lot of you women are saying to yourselves, "She's a looser!", but in turn I am not, because I win every time my man goes out and feels good about himself for taking care of me in every way. A lot of woman are wondering why your being treated like crap, and are still single. It's because you haven't learned the art of being a lady! A man may want a woman for a night, but he'll marry a lady for the rest of his life! My quote! You can use it! So in a way I agree with you, if they feel they want to take the W-O- out of Woman, and be the MAN...then let them be. Step up to the plate, but if you want him to treat you like this step back and be the lady that you were meant to be. Man, I can feel the tomatoes being thrown... ouch that hurt! LOL

Answer 4

actually i like what one person i know said "those ladies that wanted equal rights ruined it for the ladies nowadays" or something like that. and before you start raggin on me let me continue. what where the expectations for a lady back in the 1800s, marry well, keep a clean house, keep their husband happy, and the list goes on. what are the expectations now, a very differant list. so if the lady wants to be equal then appreciate it when i open the door for you. that is how i was taught. and why do you think ladies want guys to do those things? the only expectation that has been placed is by you, the asker. there are ladies that i know that appriciate it when i do those things but they dont expect it. if you think that they expect it to happen then you have missed the point of curtiousty and may as well not do them because you have a twisted few on the world and need to revamp it somewhat. and by the way some of the fields that ladies are entering nowadays they are not getting equal rights they are getting special rights. when ladies wanted to become firefighters then the school in california had to lower the requirements so that ladies could enter. how is that equal treatment?!? the stuff on the list that you named are all curtious things to do to the fairer gender. so do i think that things should change? yes but not what you are asking the question about. ladies should let their man take care of them in the way that the guy wants to UNLESS the guy treats them like sh*t. i have very few females that deserved to be treated that way and i treated them like a lady anyway. so those things that you named are in a way optional however if you do them you show the ladies that you care about the person and not just hold a desire to get in their pants. and hey if you do these things it may increase your chances of doing just that. however if all you want from the girl is to get in her pants then please do not do these because then you will polute her mind into believing that all guys want is in their pants(skirts for those ladies that wear them). girls if thats all a guy wants from you then he is not worth the trouble of dumping nor does he deserve your tears when he leaves you.
now back to talking to the guy. the things that you listed are under the heading of chivalry. as for those that believe that chivalry is dead it will not be dead as long as i am alive. for something to be dead then there is no one that practices it and i was raised to act that way.

Answer 5

Just because I can do things that men can do. Doesn't mean I want to be treated like one. All those show the character of the man. Which is important while dating. This is what I did when dating my husband. He might open my car door but I unlock his. He got up when I did. But I always made my way to him to tell him I love him or kiss him before I left. He paid for restarant bills. I brought him homemade food for his lunch time at work. Things work both ways too. You just have to look a little harder.

Answer 6

It depends on the extent that you're speaking of. Values shouldn't change, in my opinion by any means, but not all women expect all the things you speak of. I personally open doors for men, would get up 100 times if thats what was requested of me by the one I love,would marry someone who has very little but the unconditional love he would be offering, and last but not least, alimony would never enter my world. I love unconditionally too.

Answer 7

We dont demand those things. It just makes us feel special when a man is willing to do those things for us.

Answer 8

I don't demand equality, I want to be treated like a woman, because, after all, I am.

Answer 9

its almost a born instinct...its like we feel more loved and respected if those courtesy actions are done. plus it really shows how far you will go for that girl. we love to know that we are cared for & that a guy will go the extra mile for us.