My dad had an affair 6 years ago.. and there was a child born from it. Our family was just informed of it about 2 yearts ago. The woman calls everyday trying to get the child to come to our house, but my dad doesnt want him over. My mom has no idea what to do. Should she let the child come over and be with his half siblings even though only one (who is only 8 yearts old) out of 5 people in the family want him here? Should the two families be involved at all?
2006-06-05 18:38:18 · 5 answers · asked by Kt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Look at from this point of view. Is it the child's fault? Shouldn't he/she know his/her father better? And just by refusing to accept him/her will not change the facts-this is the half sibling for life. Better to accept him or her now, then to face bitterness later on in life. Maybe life could b a lot more fun with that half-sibling around?
Don't judge the child by the parents.
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All da best!
2006-06-05 18:40:50 · answer #1 · answered by Starreply 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I have the same thing happening to my child now. It hurts him that his father doesn't want him, but to invite someone to your home that is not welcome is even more harmfull to a child mentally cause children sense things.
Bottom line: It is wrong to treat that child like a second class citizen cause he/she did not ask to be born but that child has just as much right to a family that loves them and to hang his head high and not low cause he didn't do anything wrong. I would suggest that your mother at least arrange play time between the 8 year old and this child at a public park or public place and I would also like to add that the family seek real council from a therapist or a clergy member to work through this before you even decide to met this child because again it is a horrible feeling to walk in room and every one dislike you for being alive.
2006-06-06 01:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation. I am sure that your mom still has some feelings toward this other woman and everytime she would look at the child she would be reminded of the affair.
On the other hand, it is not fair to the child. The child never asked for this. Everyone should try counseling to resolve all the feelings that no one has dealt with yet.
2006-06-06 01:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not the childs fault an he deserve to know his father, id let him come over!
2006-06-06 02:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Tara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes yes.If your family like is evil or the other side.it want be good to mix.
2006-06-06 01:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋