How to write "Thank You" cards for condolences and contributions after a recent death in the family?

Question

Any etiquette involved?

Is there anything wrong with writing personalized messages rather than buying and just signing pre-printed cards?

Need help, please?

Answer 1

How to Write a Thank-You Note



You can fill even short thank-you notes with appreciation and meaning. And remember, 'better late than never' applies'the recipient will always enjoy your thanks.


Steps:
1. Mention the gift, favor or party you attended.

2. Talk about the appropriateness of the gift or favor: 'Your baby-sitting for my children has truly been a lifesaver in these difficult times.' (You can describe a gift that didn't quite suit your taste as 'a conversation piece' or 'unique.')

3. Tie the appropriateness of the gift to the person who gave it to you: 'You've always understood my taste in clothes.'

4. Talk about how you plan to use the gift (or substitute this step for step 2): 'I have a picture of my parents that would look perfect in your frame.' If you received a gift of money, mention how you will spend it.

5. Add a small personal note to update the giver about your life: 'I have completely recovered from my cold and plan to hit the slopes again as soon as I can.'

6. Consider sending a token of appreciation along with your note if you're thanking someone for a good deed. Possibilities include flowers, chocolate or an invitation to lunch (your treat).

Answer 2

I think if you have recently suffered a loss, then nobody is really expecting a thank you card. However, it would be a nice gesture on your part, and it sounds like you want to do it. I think personalized messages are better than pre-printed cards for all occasions.

Contacting your friends on a personal level may be a good way to help cope with your loss. Just be careful not to wear yourself out if you've got too many to do!

Answer 3

There is NEVER a wrong time to say a personal "thank you" for thinking of me. You can write a long or short note. I have received both and I'm always touched by someones heartfelt gratitude. You can also just send the Thank You card signed,
"The Family of -----" if you want.

Answer 4

Writing your own personal messages in your "thank you" cards for those that sent condolences and contribution for your loss is a wonderful personal touch. Take care.

Answer 5

I think writing personal letters is so much nicer than just sending cards. It will mean a LOT more to the people you send them to. This is such a personal thing for you and those who are sharing your grief. You already have the proper etiquette by caring enough to write back to them.

You sound like a wonderful, caring person and my sympathies for your loss.

Answer 6

Oh dear, the Hallmark people really HAVE undermined etiquette. Of COURSE it is appropriate to send people handwritten, personalized messages; what is tacky is substituting mass produced commercially available printed messages for these personal notes.

The notes can be extremely brief, as in: "Dear _____, You're thoughtfulness in this difficult time is appreciated. Sincerely, ________"

It is perfectly correct to have someone write these notes on your behalf. Your helper just adds "by Jane Doe" after the word "appreciated" and signs their own name. Those people who have been asking "What can I do to help" are perfect for this task.

Answer 7

Nothing wrong at all for wanting to write a personal message. I think it would be lovely.

Answer 8

writing a personal message is really nice. Especially if you mention what was given ie "Thank you for the flower arrangement." or "Thank you for your concern and contribution."

I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 9

A personal note shows you appreciate their
kindness.

Answer 10

I'm sure nobody expects you to spend too much time or money on this so anything goes.