How do you tell a girl/schollmate you've known for three years,that you like her?

Question

I've known her for 3 year now and I've liked her the whole time I've known her.I've been a real jerk at times but thats how I've been trying to let her know.I've had to watch her go out with all of my friends and I've at times wanted to hurt then for it.But I can't get to mad because I haven't told anyone.Not even my so-called friends. So what do I do.

Answer 1

To be honest, if you've been an occasional jerk to someone you've liked for three years and have gotten jealous of people who dated who to the point of wanting to hurt them, even though you yourself were not dating her, it might be a good idea to just keep your news to yourself. Just try being a good friend for a while without all the jealousy and jerkfulness. Then if 3 years from now you still feel the way and you actually perceive that she has become increasingly fond of you, it might be okay to tell her at that point. But if you've been a jerk for 3 years and she is showing no signs of any mutual affection (beyond generic friendship), then keep it to yourself.