I do whatever things the guy wants sexually but then days go by and I dont here from him, they say I'm pretty and nice...why cant I keep I a guy...I am not going to lose the weight for a guy, I am confident in myself!
2006-06-05 17:27:22 · 28 answers · asked by Lagina P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Loose weight for yourself not for the guy. 265 is not healthy.
2006-06-05 17:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you were really confident in yourself then you wouldn't "do whatever the guy wants sexually." You're giving sex in hopes of getting a relationship and it just doesn't work like that. You have to be happy with yourself first. The right guy will come along but if you're too busy spreading them for everybody else then he may just keep on walking. Evaluate what you want in a man. Then as you meet people see if THEY meet YOUR standards instead of the other way around. Once you stop lowering your standards people will take notice. Also, 265 lbs. at 5'2 isn't exactly healthy. Weight watchers is a wonderful group to lose weight with. Good luck honey.
2006-06-05 17:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by jacquelinebrns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is not Janet but a male friend and I can be the first to tell you that the reason why guys sleep with you and then don't call is because they know that you have low self-esteem and will do anything sexually to keep them. I've known plenty of overweight women who when they get a man they will do whatever he wants even if it does not please themselves. Also, I gotta be real with you, it's gonna be very hard to find a man that will stick with you at 265 lbs at only 5'2. I know it may sound harsh but most of these guys probably sleep with you because they know that it will be easy which is usually the case with overweight women. I know its real f-u-c-k-e-d up but thats the way s-h-i-t is. And I know you feel like you don't have to lose weight for a guy but that's the problem so you need to get off that "love me for me" b-u-l-l-s-h-i-t and lose the weight or you'll be spending alot of nights just like this one, ALONE!!!!
2006-06-05 17:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are a disgustingly obese pig. Lose the weight to keep your heart interested in keeping YOU alive. Regardless of what you may believe, there is no such thing as a BBW... these chicks are just disgusting slobs and the only guys who want to do them are the geeks that can't get anything better, and know your type isn't getting any either, so you'll be more likely to give some up. Drop the taco's, go get some exercise, and MAYBE you can hang on to a guy longer than it takes him to ***.
2006-06-05 17:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is not a small woman by any measure. Be confident but I would keep the sex thing down to a minimum. guys (man here) are known to settle for whatever comes along. If a man really wants to get to know you then sex will not be the 1st thing on the agenda. :)
I have a theory that being overweight is partly due to impulsive eating habbits. I know because it is hard for me to pass up sweet stuff. This same thing (whatever it is) drives your sexuality. Could be a challenge but you can only improve your situation.
2006-06-05 17:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by Robert E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. loose the weight for yourself. Not just b/c its healthy b/c thin people look better.
2. Becasue your overweight you have low self esteem, and that is the reason you do whatever a guy whats sexually, in hopes to turn him on and keep him.
3. You should take some time off and find out who you are and what you want.
2006-06-05 19:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by simplyclark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I'm like 5'6" and weigh over 300 lbs, and I learned that when I stopped worrying about putting out sexually and started looking to fall in love, I got a whole lot more respect. I married a wonderfully sweet 33 year old virgin (at the alter. Not anymore) and I lost my virginity at 14.
When I met my husband, I was getting out of a bad relationship, had a boyfriend from my past trying to get back with me, had a guy I met on campus trying to get with me, and some cashier dude in the pet store was trying to hit on me. It's about attitude. There are men out there who will find you attractive for who you are, not what you'll do in bed. Find them!
2006-06-05 17:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think that u shouldn't do what they expect of u ,yeah u might seem pretty to them but it goes beyond sex everything is not based on sex let these men get to know the real u...girl wake up recognize game when u hear it or come in contact with it...I'm a big girl myself and I'll be damn if i'ma give up the draws that quick...gain some self respect and dignity
2006-06-05 17:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by dainty2184 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...Why are you sleeping around when you are married with kids? Is this how you raise "princess"? That may be the reason everyone is "Hatin" on her. She obviously isn't being raised properly, I assume her self esteem is as low as yours, probably worse if she knows how you carry on.
Second.. You should worry about what makes you happy before worrying about keeping the guys sexually happy. It will make things alot easier on you. It might also help with your self esteem.
Third...if you lost weight (you are so rich, you could PAY someone to help you out....that might fix all your problems
2006-06-06 02:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by ame_369 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is these men don't respect you, and you don't respect your self much either because if you did you would know
that sleeping with these men will not get you anywhere but what
you getting right now. as long as you play the game they will
keep coming around for there benefits not yours, and you owe
yourself a lot more than that, confident is that you see through
your own eyes not someone else, then you will find some one that will see what really there.
2006-06-05 17:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by jazzsinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋