My husband gets jealous that I stay at home and am with the kids, he chose this life?

Question

style and is now wooried the kids will be more attached to me...could it be?

Answer 1

People always have to make decisions without realizing the full consequences. When he chose that life he hadn't realized what all it would mean. It's very likely the kids will be more attached to the primary caregiver. You need to be proactive in promoting his relationship with the kids. Try to create opportunities for them to enjoy quality time (one on one and separately) with their dad. Support him in this and do the backup work. It's part of your job as a stay-home mom.

Answer 2

I think this is one of those cases where he thinks you have it better than he does and he does all the work. The grass is greener on the other side...... But one of you has to work, your kids will appreciate everything that he has done for them when they are older and can understand. Maybe you should discuss your employment options again and see if there is something that you can work out so that you both can have time with the kids. I would take his jealousy as a good sign though. He wants to be a loving dad...but you have to pay the bills too. Good luck working things out.

Answer 3

Alot of husbands get to feel that way after a while. Maybe you should make him feel good when he comes home from work. Let him take care of the kids. He will also get upset if you are not doing your "housewife duties". The kids might feel like they can ask you something they can't ask him, fearing that he will say no. Talk to him about you getting a part time job in the evening.

Answer 4

Ask him if he wants a Babysitter to raise his kids so you can go to work. Then they can turn out just like all thoes other kids who are detached from their parents. If he wants to be attached to his kids he needs to be mentally involved. He may have come home from a long day and he is tired however, he can choose to interact with his kids or go hide behind the computer screen or the tv. He chooses what is most importaint, and Like Captain Kirk said... If something is important to you you will make time for it. The kids will be attached more to who they are with the most however we can incorporate a dad who is willing to be with his kids by stopping by his work for lunch with dad or meeting dad somewhere ect. Starting a home business can give you both more time with the kids as well.

Answer 5

It could be, yes but didn't you BOTH choose this lifestyle? It's important that the kids understand his role as well as yours and QUALITY time far outweighs QUANTITY when it comes to kids so hubby just needs to make the most of what he DOES have.

Answer 6

If they are in both of your lifes then they aren't going to get attched to one more thaan the other...unless one spoils them and the other doesn't...Tell your husband that if he spends time with the kids they aren't going to favor one parent over the other

Answer 7

Just tell him he'll have to increase the QUALITY of his time with them to make up for less quantity. Be happy that he cares how the kids feel about him!

Answer 8

Your husband needs to get real. He DID choose that lifestyle, and if he's having second thoughts, it's on HIM to make the changes--NOT you. And if he's taking it out on you, tell him you're not going to put up with it anymore.

Answer 9

They could be. Just make sure he spends alot of time with them when he is not at work. They will love you both equally.

Answer 10

Maybe you should tell your husband about all the men that you do whatever they want sexually with - that will cure the situation