I am really curious. Why do some women especially young girls keep having babies? I mean they have a bad relationship, get pregnant, leave the man/guy/boy, and then move on to the same cycle all over again? I know a girl that has 5 kids, and there are 4 different dads. 3 of the dads are dead, and one is just a looser. The guy she is with now is taking care of all 5 of her kids as if they were his own. Is this just a once in a life time chance?
2006-06-05 17:11:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Actually this girl is the sister of my best friend. She gets not one dime of public assistance besides medical. She pays all of her own bills ect. I was just using her as an example.
2006-06-05 17:39:59 · update #1
Because they are STUPID. The people who do this always think that it will only happen to someone else and not them even though it happens to then all the time. the only conclusion then is that they are STUPID, always have been and always will be.....and its just lucky that she found someone just as stupid to take care of her kids as his own. he will wake up one day and then leave and she will be then stuck with more kids and wounder what went wrong. She will then blame everyone else plus society but not herself.....belive me....... this happens all the time. just look around with open eyes and see how many stupid people who cant afford it are having kids and cant provide for them..........
2006-06-05 17:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
5 kids is excessive for anybody! friend or not, nobody has any right to bring lives let alone a life into this screwed up world without some kind of educated security to offer.
this behavior is just plain irresponsible and neglectful. who watches their 5-6-7-8 kids while they're off working to make ends meet? who's there with them after school to make sure they don't fall in with the wrong people and go off doing drugs or getting pregnant ect....
if these women do by some string of luck get to stay home with their kids, there are still too many of them to raise each one in an individually quality way. at that point it's generic, mass-parenting. there's no time or opportunity for attention to detail or individual problems. these poor kids (victims of their parents' misguidedness) get to fight out their own pecking order and then govern each other as they see fit on down the line. and we all know what rolls downhill.
these kids, who come from over populated families with overworked and underattentive parents, are also more often than not the class bullies because they come up with their older siblings pushing them around so they pass it on downhill and push their classmates around to re-establish the pecking order to their own advantage for once....
it's really terrible on the children. women with no ability to look at their future consequences and how they'll effect other people in their lives just need to be shot
2006-06-05 20:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by ladrhiana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is a thing with education. Maybe they know about contraceptives but don't have money to buy them. Sometimes women feel they need someone to be with all the time, they feel they can't make it on their own, so they get pregnant over and over thinking that man is going to stay with her because it's his child. But the cycle just keeps going.
2006-06-05 17:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When these babies gets to be around 18, they are going to have to make money to pay for all the debt Obama left them, they will be living at home, can't buy one thing, their taxes will be so high, they can't move. This age group did it to their OWN kids, they voted for Obama, why should I care if these types of so called parents don't care?
2014-04-03 12:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by Atsa me Atsa you? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you think about it like i just did.
maybe she just likes having sex and of course we're all thinking why doesn't she just use birth control. well, she may have personal issues like she doesn't remember to take the pills or she prolly doesn't even have enough self respect to just go the the damn doctor and get some birth control or watever.
then there is the possibility that she keeps having babies b/c she doesn't believe in abortion and after having her first baby she couldn't imagine giving up her own flesh and blood to adoption.
she is probably just looking for someone to take care of her. i guess she's so used to taking advantage of people and being a mooch that she just can't help it. and the only possible reason i can think of for her being with loser guys. is cuz she can't help but feel sorry for them and she wants to be "that girl" that they can trust and that she would always be there for them and all that bullsht. she wants to feel loved and wanted.
and i think that is probably why.
if you are friends with her, i think you should move on, she seems to be the "loser" from my point of view.
from wat you are saying, she is going nowhere in her life, she has no goals set for herself or her children. and she obviously has no self respect. there is nothing you can do to change her. so step back and get on with your life. you shouldn't be worrying about something you have no control over.
2006-06-05 17:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by Pearlz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like men, women individuals do not always imagine about the consequences of their moves earlier they do them... What about the boys that are fathering a majority of those children? i comprehend men which have little ones by ability of three, 4, 5 diverse women individuals. And yet THEY get off scot-loose. no man or woman seems down on THEM.
2016-12-06 10:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be some guy or she is some girl. Wow, taking care of someone else's 5 kids. To me this sounds like something you don't come by very often. Sounds like she should stick with this dude.
2006-06-05 17:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly beyond me. I guess they're just that desperate for attention or something. In the long run, they're probably just screwing up thier children by not having a stable family enviorment.
2006-06-05 17:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when they have sex they don't really care about protecting them self's.They probbaly do it for fun and not think. Young girls mainly because there parents probbaly don't care about them and there bad or something. Dads might just do it for fun and not care.
2006-06-05 17:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know about you all but the area i live in --is an area i like to call welfare country--as everyone is on welfare around here---
the 1st second and 3rd is busy times where i work at--and they are the most rudest assholes you will ever meet--they act like they earned it---i made up a song from an old country song---it used to go i 'm just an old jukebox junky waisting my time spending my money
i changed these lyrics to--
i'm just and ol' welfare junky---wasting my time spending taxpayers money--
it saddens me that welfare has become an institute that supports the whores in this country and their kids--while we as hard working people have to live paycheck to paycheck--wondering if we weill have food to eat or gas to put in our cars to get to work.....
here they get 500 bucks for first baby and 1100 for 2---a friend of mine just had a baby--he grew up on welfare by the way--and now he has a baby--a wife and no job--just his welfare check and now an additional 500 bucks for the baby---and already talking about a second one like we owe them money for populating the masses..
so to all you welfare wannabees--keep your legs crossed and your ***** in your pants until you get a job to support yourselves and your child
2006-06-05 17:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by lhardwick69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋