I have been dating off and on the same man for 5 years. We are very happy but latley im feeling like its time to either make a commitmnet (get married) or move on. We are both 41 and aren't getting any younger. I love him and love to be with him but I feel like I need more. When I talk to him about it he feels the same way but were both so skidish about giving up our own space. I own my home and so does he, I like being able to come home when I don't want to talk to just need to be alone. Im so confused about what I really want. Anyone have any great advice
2006-06-05 17:07:23 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so you just like a two horny stray dogs just bang it out then leave, no commitment, you're getting old who will love youafterthis go on tell him you loved him and he loves you go ahead tie a knot
2006-06-05 17:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by lepactodeloupes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a classic example of a woman foisting her rules upon a man. If you're both happy now, what would moving in together or marrying accomplish, other than to make YOU feel more emotionally secure.
Face it - what you're after is a commitment from him that you he will be there to change your diaper when you get old. Well, maybe not quite that, but you definitely want some security. Do you really thin that a marriage is going to give you that security? I mean, we're talking about Marriage; that institution with a 60% FAILURE ratio. Is that gonna give you the warm fuzzy that you need? If so, then by all means risk the nice relationship you have now.
2006-06-06 00:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you're not ready for the marriage path. if you really feel like sometimes you just want everyone to leave you the heck alone, then you're not ready to live with another person. walking away isnt a great decision either because you two might have a great relationship...it's just at a plateau right now. i relaly feel like you should sit him down and TALK...and i mean, TALK. be serious for once, don't run away from it. if you cant discuss something as serious as marriage, then you two just arent ready for anything else. if you don't reach a decision, make compromises. ask him to stay over a couple of days, and if it feels right waking up to see his face, and kissing him before you go to sleep...you'll know what to do. but if you still feel like you need your space and aren't ready to budge or make life-changing decisions such as marriage, then you should talk to him about what you two can do to improve it. i hope this helps (= Good Luck
2006-06-06 00:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by xeternal_heavnx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋