Are girls harder to take care of then boys when they become teens with sex,boys, and stuff.?

Question

I have two little girls and I worry I will be to strict on them when they become teens when its comes to boys ?

Answer 1

no, being strict is called being a good mother

Answer 2

Thats a good question. But I can only speak as an uncle. My niece has been a wonderful friend and always listens patiently when ever I speak to her, but I hold myself back when she talks back to her parents in ways that remind me of how I used to do the same thing. I imagine that if I had a daughter her age (14) the nature of our relationship would be tense, especially given what teen's have available today and the accessibility of information trading with friends while at home. With boys I am less patient and more rigid in my approach toward advice. Being male gives me insight to how all of us were when teenagers and that makes things intolerable for me when it comes to misbehavior by boys. My answer is there is no easy answer, it's almost equally difficult. I'm so grateful to not have children these days. I enjoy being an uncle and enjoy being around kids, but thats because I don't have to take them home.

Answer 3

you cant be strict enough. in this day and age kids are having sex at 12 or younger. if i had to go through the teen years again with my kids my daughter would be on birth control as soon as she was old to concieve a child.(13) the depo shot is $400 a year. its a lot cheaper than raising a baby! that might not sound like good parenting to some of you, but i consider it to be very responsible to make sure that your child has a life before bringing more children into this world that they cant take care of. girls are so hard to raise.

Answer 4

I have a 17 year old son and 14 year old daughter(plus 3 other kids still coming up) but as far as the teens go I would have to say my daughter is the hardest. My son is striving for his independence and the last 3 years he just hung out with "his boys" and never talked too much about girls. But my daughter has her hormonal ups and downs and the peer pressure at school, not being liked or other "girl things". Just stay strong, teach them right and things should be fine.

Answer 5

They can be harder when it comes to boys, but it all depends on how you raise them and on their personalities.

My best friend put it to me this way while I was raising my stepkids (1 of each): the girl will bring home just a baby; the boy will not only bring home the girl, but also the baby. So, I raised both of the kids the same. And when I was a nanny for 2 years, we let both the girls and boys know that they weren't allowed to have sex or to get serious with the opposite sex until they are done with college. But, they are also being told about sex and all related things.

Answer 6

I think it is great that you are strict on your daughters. I wish there were more parents that were worried about the outcome of their children!!!!

I think girls have their teen moments WAY BEFORE puberty....The only way I know this is due to my 8 neices, I have 4 boys....A huge difference!!

Keep yourself in check when it comes to being the parent and not their friend. They will respect you and listen/understand where you are coming from a lot better that way.

Answer 7

If you're being strict to control them, they will probably resent you for it. But if you are being strict to protect them, they will understand (someday). I have a thirteen year old son, and a two and half year old daughter. I let my son have his freedom to an extent, but he doesn't understand why I'm so protective of him. In fact my husband works for the medical examiners office and sees dead kids all the time. So my son knows first hand, why I'm so strict, but still tries to push the limits. When my daughter is a teenager, I will probably be more strict on her. Girls are easy to pursway, and can't defend themselves against a strong guy. Boys are taught to defend themselves. We raise our boys to be protectors and our girls to find a protector. It's our job to be strict (to protect them). When they have kids is probably the only time they will ever understand.

Answer 8

My father always talks about a doublestandard, you will rise them differently than if u had boys but you want your children to not get pregnant at an early age, thats fine and understandable. If you give them too much freedom, they will abuse it, if u are too strict (no boys allowed and such) they will go behind ur back, find a middle ground.

Answer 9

yes they are more difficult because girls get involved in sex much earlier than boys -- many studies suggest that most girls have had a sexual experience by age 13 while most boys have had a sexual experience by 15 -- this statistic indicates the higher maturity level of most girls as compared to their male counterparts and support the idea that girls are more important to prepare for sex than boys -- this kind of problem will occur more quickly, and so should be addressed more quickly as well

Answer 10

Well, honestly, strictness is relative to the child and how often you allow them to be alone in the presence of boys.

Even the most trust worthy child will falter under the influence of intropy.

Answer 11

Well, those are the consequences. you could move to the middle of nowhere where you girls won't socialize with anyone. That, or hope that your girls would understand, consider, and accept your advice and decisions on them in the future. You might disagree now, but results is what matters.