Serious Question. How long after you delivered your baby did you wait to have sex?

Question

I had a really really bad episiodmy. The area didn't heal very well. It has been a few months and using tampons is still very uncomfortable. My husband hasn't said a word, and he is being very understanding. I don't know what I should do. I am afraid that it will be very painful. Now the idea of having sex is a turn off because of the fear of the pain. Has anyone else had this problem? What did you do about it? It is kind of embarassing to ask people. Should I see my doctor?

Answer 1

I had an episitomy as well, we didn't have sex for three months. But it took about a whole year before it felt normal again. There are still some sex positions my husband and I cannot do, that before were no problem. I think your body just changes and it never goes back (on the inside), that's why we still can't do some positions. Also, make sure the first time you do have sex you're on top, because you can control the depth. Also expect it to burn like hell. But my doctor told me it's normal. And if you breast feed, don't expect to feel too sexy. It's kind of hard to feel like a sexy woman when you have milk coming out, but remember, it's only for awhile, and you can never have that kind of bond back once you stop breast feeding. Oh, and make sure you some sort of protection, you are completely fertile after giving birth.

Answer 2

I had a bad tear and it hurt and u know u shouldnt really be using tampons after u have a baby thats what i have been told at least. But i would try the sex thing and see how it goes. Tell him to go really slow and then tell him to stop if it hurts. It is problay going to hurt the first time just because u just had a baby and things are diffrent down there. I had a very high sex drive and was having sex 2 weeks after my son was born. I cant say that was the smartest thing i did cause i dont think i healed right after that but i just go used to the pain it will subside after a while. Start to have sex again and see how u feel about it and if it countues to hurt thats when i would call my doc.

Answer 3

Last summer, I was recovering from a second C-section and a systemic thrush infection from nursing. I could NOT have been less into sex. But 8 weeks after Stella's birth, my husband started putting the moves on. As it turned out, I wouldn't have initiated it, and I wasn't as into it as he was, but it was nice. And we eased into it, making out one day, giving/receiving oral another, and eventually we were having sex again.

He understands that I didn't feel good, or particularly attractive/sexy, and that nursing can leave you feeling all "touched out." By the time you get everyone to bed and the chores done, the last thing you're thinking about is sex.

But it was good before, and it will be again. And sometimes you just need a little push. Also, sex is a really good way to connect with your husband and remember that your relationship matters, too.

Go slow. Speak up if it's not comfortable. And see what happens.

Answer 4

I waited the full 6 weeks. But I also got very lucky and didn't have any tears either. It was still painful, though, the first couple of times. Do what you think is right for you. If it hurts, stop. Try other things. You should see your doctor just in case something else is wrong.

Answer 5

i understand, and this is a very good question, i myself never wanted to have sex again lol, i waited a little over two months because i was afraid it would hurt, and i was cut two times down there because i was small, i was afraid my husband would think i was ugly, but you know what, i did not hurt at all, and he did not even look! sounds like you have a great husband, and it would be best to get back to normal as soon as you can, tell your husband to be very gentle and that you are scared, i am sure he too is a little scared, if it hurts then stop and wait a bit longer, but i dont think it will. good luck and GOD BLESS.

Answer 6

I know that I was supposed to wait for 45 days, but of course I did not, one never realizes how important sex is in your relationship until you are restricted from having sex.. I believe after I felt no discomfort and I was very gentle... within 30 or maybe even 20 days after... Just be gentle and if you feel that it is hurting you, then stop and wait another week... and like that you will know when you are ready and your partner will see that you are making an effort . ....

Answer 7

a million. C phase isn't truthfully attached with quantity of deliveries (i.e. climate it is your first or moment), however with child's function (i.e. child with legs down commonly is going to C-phase) and state of the cervix (climate it is beginning intself, or beneath induction, ir now not). So, the mere incontrovertible fact that yoru child is higher then ordinary does not ought to imply that you are going to commonly move to C-phase. I reside in Europe and right here you're consistently allow to give evidently, except there's actula clinical rationale for C-phase, precisely since of what you mentioned-since it is most important surgical procedure. And ultimately, induction could very good ship you to vaginal supply, regardless of measurement of the child-and eight kilos is not truthfully that enormous :) two. Doctors say that when (vaginal) supply you must wait no less than five-6 weeks earlier than seeking to have intercourse. It's that lengthy with a view to allow your frame heal from supply, from all of the wounds brought about by means of it. I imply, I was once bleeding for four weeks after the primary supply (either one of my deliveries have been vaginal), had episiotomy which was once painful for two weeks...C-phase heals for two months, so practically I could say that you just must containt from intercourse no less than 6-7 weeks. three. C-phase cannot impact milk coming, even though it perhaps painful on the establishing, much more then with vaginal supply-since you have got wound at the belly. Hope ladies which went by way of C-phase will supply extra information on it, well success both approach!

Answer 8

i have had 2 c-sections and the tummy is very sensitive for a while. i didn't have sex for 3 months with the first one but with the second it was about a month. you shouldnt have sex if it hurts its not suppose to hurt. wait. you should use pads they might be a pain in the *** but at they are safer.

Answer 9

I understand that hey you can seen a doc' but my wife and I had sex after a month and yes it did hurt a bit for her but only just once after that it stopped so you try your best choice for every woman is different.

Answer 10

i was the same way after i had both of my kids. i waited until my doctor told me it was ok. usually its 6 weeks until you can have sex. my husband was very understanding also, but i felt like he was wanting to so i offered to do other stuff for him. good luck