I am going to join the church choir and I am so scared. I have a constant state of butterflies in my stomach. But I know that I have to join this because recently I have been closed off from the world and I didn't realize it until a year ago and my doctor said that I need to get out and do things. So how do I get rid of this worry and stress?
2006-06-05 16:23:40 · 19 answers · asked by Meeshell 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Michelle, you're never going to stop having "worry and stress". It's part of human nature.
Using your Church Choir as an example, don't you think even experienced singers get "butterflies" before they go onstage? Everyone, from choir singers to famous vocalists like Mariah Carey, gets nervous before a performance.
http://www.mcarchives.com/news/index1.asp?id=5399
If you're not at least a little nervous before you "do your thing", then you're not very interested in that thing, and you're never going to give your best.
The choir is just ONE of the things you'll try in your life. You may love it, you may hate it; you may be the best choir singer ever, or you might really stink at it. The important thing is that you DID IT. No one is good at everything, and no one is bad at everything. The effort is what makes the difference.
There are surely ways that you can "get out and do things" in your neighborhood, even aside from the choir. Is there an animal shelter near you? You could volunteer to feed and care for the animals. Your local library probably has a learn-to-read program (I see that you can write, so I assume you can read!). You could help kids, or even adults, who can't read. I'm sure that if you look around, you'll find a bunch of ways that you can "do things", while you're also helping someone at the same time.
Every human person has fears. Fears motivate you, they keep you on your toes, and they shape yor character. Use them...don't let them stop you.
(BTW...Mariah Carey just happened to be the first Famous Singer I thought of....she's on the radio right now!)
2006-06-06 10:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by jvsconsulting 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is really scary to do something new, but do you "have to" join this particular group? if you want to, then you should ask a friend to go with you for the first meeting or call ahead and tell the moderator your concerns so they can make sure you are comfortable.
Join something you enjoy, so that way the scared feeling will be worth it.
take deep breaths on your way there and say "It'll be really fun." Think about a moment when you were having a lot of fun and then visualize yourself at choir with the same feelings.
When you get there introduce yourself and start up a conversation. "how long have you been in the choir?" is a good start.
good luck!
2006-06-05 23:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by sarahliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you take it step by step. Like go to the church of the Choir and try to make friends or acquaintances, then you can jump into the Choir. Maybe by then you won't feel funny because you have been seeing these people singing or you might already know some of them. If not just look at it as just an obstacle like anything else in life and remember what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger..... Good luck and have confidence in yourself.... You will be fine....
2006-06-05 23:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it have to be the choir you go to. Can't you just go to church and join in talking with people, and helping out with other things that would be much more relaxing than singing. I would be stressed big time if I had to sing.
2006-06-05 23:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont have much idea what u r talking abt. But best i can say is that dont get afraid of any situations.
Well as a child i was very timid also. I use to be afraid of drunkers, beggers whoever looks strange.
I had a wonderful trainer and he not only made me proff body builder but he made me a more powerful person deep inside. I dont fear anybody now, any situation now.
Be confident to handle situations & iam sure u will handle it well.
Bye & take care,
2006-06-05 23:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by Tutul C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to eliminate your stress. Go out and do it. Take a friend to make things more comfortable. Make new friends and soon you will feel at home. And don't worry about what other people think, after all, it is a church.
2006-06-05 23:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by dropdeadchicken28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice - I'd start with something a little less pressure than a choir myself, but don't let me stop you. THe more you do it, the easier it will be.
2006-06-05 23:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by BobTheBizGuru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that absolutely no one that walks the face of this earth is any better than you are. We are all human. Take some deep breathes and go for it!!!!
2006-06-05 23:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're shy of singing in front of a crowd of people, just focus on singing the words of the song.
2006-06-05 23:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by obiwankenobi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why the nerves? theyre gonna love you in church regardless of how you perform, and you know God will always love you. have fun in your worship, make some new friends and hopefully open up to the world!
2006-06-05 23:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by ohhWOEisME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋