I'm 16 and I had sex with my boyfriend after knowing him for about two weeks. It was both of our first times. And when we met the first time it was for a date because we were kind of set up. So it seems like maybe it was just expected of us to like each other.. and start holding hands and whatever.. it didn't just happen naturally. We do not really have a connection.. like we arent all comfortable around eachother and able to talk to eachother...it seems more physical. But I love being with him and stuff. I am so confused about how I feel. Like he is almost a stranger to me. I just wanted to know some people's opinions on our relationship and where it may be headed.
2006-06-05 16:14:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If there is only a physical attraction between the two of you, I can't see this lasting. I wouldn't even call it a relationship since you two are like strangers (according to what you said). You rushed into having sex and of course it ruined your relationship, Learn from your mistakes and move on...
2006-06-05 16:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Miss J 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's kind of sad that you didn't have a really great experience for your first time. I don't think sex can ruin a relationship, but I do think that the confusion that young folks like you have around sex, coupled with young, undeveloped communication skills, can ruin relationships.
If you don't feel a connection with him, stop seeing him. If you like having sex and just want sex, then fine, have sex with whoever you want, but I suspect you'll have a lot more emotion tied up in it after all. If you know that's the case, then why not hold off on the sex until you have the kind of emotional connection you want?
Guys are going to pressure you for sex, that's what we do. It's up to you to choose how to respond.
2006-06-05 16:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by jackmack65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you slept together too soon. You should have got to know him first. Seeing it was the first time for both of you things may be a little weird between you for a while. It is probably best to just talk to him and see what his opinion is. He may feel the same way. Since you have shared something so special together you owe it to each other to at least take and see if there is a future for you.
2006-06-05 16:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by aussie_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense, but sex already ruined that relationship. you cannot jump right into the bed with a guy irregardless whether it was the first time for both of you. sex is supposed to be sacred with love not lust. your best bet is to move on because the relationship will go no further than sex. trust me on this because i am a guy. he knows now that he can get what he wants when he wants it and that is all he cares about.
2006-06-05 18:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by unspecial 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I hope you used a condom,, secondly the way you are feeling is because you know now ,you rushed into things. It is better to know someone for a while longer before you do that again, I believe you have already figured that out,,,,,
2006-06-05 16:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by john l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if you should have waited to be sexual with him, if their is no real connection. I guess you should just move on and find another guy who you develope one with. You are young and have plenty of time to find the right person for you.
2006-06-05 16:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes because as we all know it can. If you do it and your man isn't ready. Then that will pretty much ruin it. Make sure he is ok and if he is mad say sorry or send a card with garfield crying.
2006-06-05 16:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by babysmarts4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking for trouble. Wait until your both 18. Then use protection. Be smart.
2006-06-05 16:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its headed straight to your bedroom please you gave it up to fast and he is thinking if you gave it to him that soon how many other guys can get it that easily he will never look at you as marriage material not if you just want a sexual relationship than you got your man
2006-06-05 16:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, in case you're taking approximately in all likelihood having intercourse with somebody who's already a great buddy of yours than i might ought to declare, definite it ought to truly in all likelihood smash your dating with that guy or woman. because of the fact it ought to in reality make issues weird and wonderful for you adult adult males later on, exceedingly if the intercourse grow to be in basic terms so so. whether in case you're talking approximately having intercourse with somebody you're heavily in love with, then i might ought to declare, No. it ought to in reality strengthen the dating. I even have been in my modern dating for 5 years, and that i rather believe the affection we proportion the two bodily and emotionally strengthen our life together. in simple terms make your strikes slowly and actually evaluate what you're doing and the way it ought to result you the two.
2016-12-08 17:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋