An additional problem is that this is a same-sex attraction, and I'm a little freaked out by it. Ok, maybe a lot freaked out.
2006-06-05 16:01:44 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You have a classical attraction. Your therapist should know how to deal with the issue.
If you don't let your therapist know - you are being dishonest with them - what is the point of therapy.
Be honest, but be accepting of the answer you get.
At best, they'll be flattered, and tell you there's no future in a relationship. At worst, they'll take on a relationship - and then, you are at the total pity of your therapist......
Be open - and get a pre-nupt before you go too far.
2006-06-05 16:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by Blim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her, and you should ask her for a referral to another therapist. The therapist/client relationship makes some strong bonds but your feelings will very possibly interfere with your therapy. Once you've been a patient, an ethical therapist would never date you, even years down the road, so you unfortunately will not be able to persue your feelings, so you should move on and try and find a therapist where you can concentrate on your therapy with no distractions. By the way, it's not that uncommon for a patient to develop a crush on a therapist (just like getting a crush on your teacher or boss) because they are an authority figure, and you discuss some deep emotions. Don't freak out over it but don't continue seeing this therapist (not anything negative on her, just will be hard for her to be effective) and don't put her in a position where she may be tempted to do something unethical.
2006-06-05 16:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by dcgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her, be prepared for her to tell you to find another therapist.
But if this attaction is distracting you from your therapy, you might want to let her know and then tell her you're going to get a new therapist. Remember - you probably started therapy for a reason other than trying to pick up chicks! Keep your eyes on the goal here!
Then if for any reason the two of you ever care to see each other socially - it's not an ethical violation.
2006-06-05 16:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by mcdane01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason there is a rule in Professional circles is that people often can get attracted to people who help them. It's not ethical to use that attraction - on either side of the fence. You must realize that this is probably the case in your instance. The therapist has/is helping you. Your response to being helped is not unique. Acting on it WOULD be a mistake, for you, and for your therapist.
I think this answers the question. Good luck with getting on with your life!
2006-06-05 16:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I imagine so.. (don't sound like you've had experience w/this..) It's l00% normal, fairly common.. so relax! Boy, I guess it's a tossup about 'discussing it.' (I'd be embarassed.. so I can relate.) You know what? I think it's all in how you phrase the comment to (is it a her?) You have to be tactful! She's a therapist (she's run into this before.. trust me on this) and she'll "get it" what you are leading to. (NOW I guess I've gotta come up w/that 'ideal comment' huh?) let me see here.. How about.. "my feelings are so out of control on something.. can you help me analyze a positive feeling I've been having toward you all these many sessions? Is it normal?" (Might throw it in how she's been so 'tremendously damned helpful' to you in there somewhere.. ) lol.. g'luck.. (melancholia)
2006-06-05 16:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people fall for their therapist. It has something to do with an Admiration crush. It's very common, and usually only turns out o be a temporary infatuation. Give it time. Perhaps it will pass.
2006-06-05 16:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by Just Gone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WE share the same name!
If you do tell her, she will likely not be your therapist any longer - ethics.
So many patients think they are in love with or have a crush on their therapist. Its a time of your life when your vulnerable and the Therapist is your rock..its normal. It will go away.
2006-06-05 16:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by jane d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you had this therapist? Is it a new relationship? I would keep my mouth shut for now. Especially if you want to continue the therapy.
2006-06-05 16:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by dkrgrand 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she's a therapist, then tell her. Say that you feel attracted to a member of the same sex, and you don't know what kind of attraction it is.
2006-06-05 16:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by George the Greek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not say a word ! Just slip your hand under her skirt and start rubbing her thighs. You will find out then if she is receptive. Some people send out signals that they are attracted to you. Maybe the attraction is mutual.
Have a feel, have fun !
2006-06-05 16:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by sonny_too_much 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋