I'am 20 years old and I have been recently been asked to attend a family reunion out of state by my father I have not seen (parents not together)or spoken (only on occassions) to for the past 6 years. He wants me to come and meet his side of the family and all of my brothers and sisters. Its not like I don't want to meet my family its just that there is to much pressure to go. I know I'm an adult and all but still.....
P.S. How would you react?
2006-06-05 15:48:58 · 37 answers · asked by Scooter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know tha going to this thing is the whole point of meeting family members but come on, not knowing ANYONE!
2006-06-05 15:52:22 · update #1
I would go. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Well, you're not going to get to know anyone by not going.
2006-06-05 15:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by sunflowers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely should go. This will be a chance to meet other family members and see your father. The fact that he wants you to come and meet his side of the family is wonderful. You will probably have a really nice time. You might feel uncomfortable at first, but anyone would. Just do it and don't put too much thought into this or you will talk yourself out of it. Also, if there is a lot of pressure for you to go, that means they really want you there.
2006-06-05 16:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a great opportunity to get to know that side of your family, meet everyone, and hopefully form lasting family ties. On the flip side, if you really feel that uncomfortable and possibly pressured, then just be upfront with your father & tell him that because you haven't really had contact with him in 6 years, that you'd feel more at ease seeing him again for the first time one on one....and slowly be introduced to the rest of your extended family. I would hope that my father would just be happy to see me again, and would understand my hesitation and be supportive no matter how the first meeting was to happen. Good luck with whatever you decide to do, and just be true to your own feelings.
2006-06-05 15:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by NYCaliGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not spoken or seen my father in almost 10 years. I did hear that he got remarried..but with children? Don't know. If I was in your situation, I would definitely feel uncomfortable as well. Most of all, I would feel self-conscious wondering as to whether they would like me or not.
If you feel you're not ready to reaquaint yourself with your father in person and other members of his family, he will have to understand and respect your wishes. Perhaps you can meet them more on a smaller group setting or individual basis instead. This way, it allows you to get to know each member a little better than in a crowd.
Personally, I wouldn't go only because it would be too uncomfortable.
Hope that helps.
2006-06-05 15:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you think meeting all those people at once would be overwhelming, and that you would prefer to meet one or two of them at a time so you can really get to know them as individuals, not as a large mass known as "dad's family". If it's really important to him to have you there, maybe he could arrange for you to meet a few members close to your own age beforehand, so you'd have some people to hang out with. If it means a lot to him, you should go. It's one day, or one weekend, out of your life, and it would make him happy.
2006-06-05 15:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by zartsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go. This could be a wonderful opportunity to meet family that you've never known. I would give it a good chance, but have a way to back out if you get there and totally hate what is going on.
2006-06-05 15:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by happypanda03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you feel endangered or extremely uncomfortable in going, go. Sounds like your father's trying to communicate with you a little more than he has been in the past few years. And, I agree, this is a great chance to get to know his side of the family.
2006-06-05 15:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by eph514 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult, do not let anyone pressure you into anything you do not wish to do. but Reunions are always good for free food, and you may just meet someone you may like. It would be worth the trip, but you decide, dear.
2006-06-05 15:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 20, I would have passed. It would have been too awkward. But, having some years behind me, I know I would have regretted not going.
Relationships are easy. There are time that you have to go out on a limb and suffer the awkwardness. In the end, it's worth it.
2006-06-05 15:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by something 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relatives are so interesting! You should definately go, and try to meet as many people as you can. Maybe one of your cousins or something is really cool and you'll make a new friend. Just try them out! if you dont like anyone, its not like you have to live with them.
2006-06-05 15:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and meet them because u have the right 2 know ur family and besides everybody in a family are different youll probaly have a good time
2006-06-05 15:52:59 · answer #11 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋