how do i tell my mother her boyfriend of 12 years, touched me inappropriately.?

Answer 1

Tell her soon and, if need be, often. Get help from another dependable adult that your mother trusts.
Depending on your age, get help from a teacher, doctor, other trusted adult.
If you are an adult, or older teen, be prepared for your mother to doubt what you say. She might believe you at once, or not. With time, I hope she will believe you.

Answer 2

Tell her any way you can. Write it down, talk to her, do whatever it takes. I could never talk with my mother, so I always had to write her notes, or when I got mad I'd shout it at her instead of hiding it. Or if you need to, call the police and talk to them about it.

My older half-brother touched me inappropriately when I was 5-8 years old. I told my mother maybe last year, but she doesn't believe me, no matter how many times I tell her. She refuses to tell him about it or ask him. She just doesn't believe me. I really wish you luck, and I know it's tough. No matter what though, no matter what happens, it isn't your fault, and don't believe for a second it is. And if your mother doesn't believe you, take it to someone who will.

Answer 3

well depends on how old you were--and all--if you were young and all you may have thought he touched you inappropriately---i mean if he touched you in your crotch or on your chest around your nipples then i say sure i would tell mom..but if in the 12 yrs he has been with your mom and no more has come of it--then more than like it it wasnt as bad as you think as he would have kept on doing so and then more as the years went along--
if this is recent and you are in your teens then you know in your heart what to do--anddont need a bunch of strangers telling you what to do--if he touched you there and its been recent--tell your mom ---
but proving it is hard to do unless he actually penetrates your crotch area--i dare say the other word hehehe---in a way the first thing i would do is if he does it agintell him to stop--and go from there--remember the best way to a man is through his stomach and his balls--meaning solid punch in center of stomoch and /or balls that will make him stop--
but you need proof--or your mother may not believe you

Answer 4

I don't know how old you are, but I assume you're old enough to sit down across the kitchen table from your mom and say something along the lines of "Mom, you always told me that I should never let any man touch me in a way that made me uncomfortable. . . well, here's what happened." Be prepared for her to defend him or make light of it, since they've been together for 12 years, but hold your ground.

If she stays with him and doesn't end the relationship, make sure you do not ever put yourself in a situation where you have to be alone with him again.

I wish you the best of luck. This is a difficult thing.

Answer 5

You just have to. Also tell your school counselor. A good friend of mine had molested my daughter, several times. I was devasted. I wanted to believe she was lying, but I loved her enough to take her seriously. We called the police together, and it took a year an half to finally convict. This isn't an easy process. Our whole family suffered, but what is more important is for you to know that this isn't your fault. If you don't get mom to believe you, report it to the police with your school counselor's help. The most important thing to remember, is molestation is a felony. He needs to be removed from your world, and prosecuted.
Mom might go ballistic over this, but if you tell her the truth, and if she truly puts her kids ahead of her creepy longterm boyfriend, you guys will come out alright. Wounded, but alright.

Answer 6

HERE'S HOW YOU TELL HER: You say " mom I have something very important and it is also urgent that I tell you right away. I'M not sure how to say this except to just come right out and say it, So........"
Trust me she will understand. However if you and your mother have a distant or not a good relationship and she is to doubt you, OR put you at fault then you call the police or a 24 hour hot line and they will help you.
It is so important that you tell her right NOW> DO NOT WAIT!! Please trust me and all the other people who have answered you. You need to tell her right now. Please don't wait any longer, we care!

Answer 7

Pray, so you'll find strenght to tell her. I know it's not easy. Find a time where she is in a good spirit, tell her that you need to speak to her about something which is very important. Tell her honestly but don't expect much. Prepare yourself for the worst, that is maybe she won't believe you and think that you being exaggerated. But, if she truly loves you, she will think it over and do something. Hope this will help!!

Answer 8

It will be hard but the best way is to sit her down and tell her exactly what happened. If there was anything he said while doing it tell her that to. My sister and I were molested my my ex step father for 4 years before we told our mom what was happening. She didn't believe us until we told her things he said while it was happening. The things we told her were things he said to her while they were being intamate. No way we could have known that. It came to a head and we found out he had molested 8 other people besides us.

Answer 9

go up to her and say "Your boyfriend of 12 years touched me inappropriately"

And then tell her how many times and when

And hit her

Go, "*****! How could you let him do this to me!?"

Answer 10

Just tell her you need to let her know something and then do tell her. If for any reason she doubts you, then tell a teacher or someone you trust. There is never, ever any excuse for what he did and you should not let him get away with that.