We are having a formal black & white wedding and we are unsure if the money dance is tacky; but we could definitely use the extra money, help!?! Has anyone done this? Ideas?
2006-06-05 15:07:33 · 24 answers · asked by mbuller 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it is tacky, especially if you are having a formal wedding. Your guests are already bringing you gifts and then you're asking them for more money? And you can say that not everyone has to do it, but I've been to weddings where you are obligated to do it because either the wedding party is walking around pushing you to go dance with the bride or groom, people around you are doing it and then you look like a jerk if you don't. And a lot of time, people may not bring cash with them. I just think its wrong to go "begging" for money.
2006-06-05 20:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
It's not tacky if it's an established family tradition. If you're doing this out of the blue, then it might be a little tacky when family members who have never experienced this before and aren't expecting it start rummaging through their wallets and looking for a local ATM.
If you really need the money, then don't register for gifts. Instead, ask that your friends and family make a monetary gift that will help you and your chosen to begin a life together and to cover the cost of the wedding. Let them know when you (or your groom) give your speech how grateful you are and that this most memorable day of your life is their gift to you because of the contributions.
If you're worried that asking everyone for money is going to seem selfish or superficial, then have a "Charity Raffle". Put a fishbowl near the basket for your contributions. Ask that each guest put the name of their favorite charity onto a slip of paper and drop it into the fishbowl. At some point during the evening, the bride should pull a slip from the bowl and let her groom announce it. The chosen charity will recieve 10% of the contributions given. This will make the idea of asking for money-only gifts seem a little easier and will let the guests feel that they've done something more important than just running to a store and buying you something. You and your groom can use the remaining 90% of the financial gifts as you need it; to cover the cost of the wedding, to afford a honeymoon, whatever. Since everyone will be giving $$$, there should be enough.
2006-06-05 22:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by fruitnroo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it is not tacky, but rather an old tradition with practical roots. I never did the money dance at my own wedding because we eloped.
If you are going to go formal, have the money dance. It is after all, for a good cause. I wish you a long, and happy marriage.
2006-06-05 22:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by Battlerattle06 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally tacky at a formal wedding. If it was something more casual I'd say "go for it!", but if youre having a formal wedding, you need to be more classy.
p.s. the money tree is even more tacky.
2006-06-05 22:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lilia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a long lived tradation! it is not tacky and it is very much enjoyed! I would say go for it and just let them choose what they are going to pay, unless the people going to the wedding have some money that they can give up. my friend did $5 a dance. it wasn't that much but they got like $300 the people that could pay more did
2006-06-05 22:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by lu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is tacky, and i have never seen one done. I have heard plenty of people complain about having attended a wedding where there was a dollar dance though. i guess it takes up a long time, and the guests dont usually like it. and really, the bride and groom should be enjoying their day by dancing with each other..i hear your wedding day goes by very quickly, so make the most of it. I dont think it is worth getting a little extra cash to tie up valuable dancing/celebrating time , and probably looking tacky and pissing off the guests, who have already spent money by giving the gifts they have brought...thats my opinion...
2006-06-06 10:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by pinkcat613 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no i have been to a lot of formal weddings with money dances another good idea is a money tree which just sits on a table and people come and put money on it with clothes pins so it is a little more annonomys that way both are fine
2006-06-05 22:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a younger couple... then it's not tacky. It's only tacky when it is someone who might be getting married for the second time and already has their life started.
2006-06-05 22:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by Kristin M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its tacky to have pacman dance at your wedding. I just felt like pointing that out.
2006-06-05 22:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by Gunmetal Grey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and do it. It isn't tacky. I really enjoyed getting to dance with my family and friends. It's a nice time to talk to your guest.
2006-06-05 22:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by nay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋